He never comes inside me

[RadtoShayer]

My DP never comes inside me. He always pulls out and wants to ejaculate into my mouth.

Whilst I mostly don't mind this, for me, sex is about feeling close to someone and it doesn't really feel like I'm close to him when he is pulling out hurriedly and trying to change position in order to come in my mouth.

I've spoken to him about this and asked if sometimes we could have more romantic sex. It hasn't happened. In over four years he has probably came inside me five or six times. The rest is in my mouth.

I'm really starting to get fed up of this. I've asked him and he says he isn't uncomfortable about pregnancy, it is just something he has always done and he enjoys the visual aspect of it. When I raise it with him he says he will finish anywhere I want but then just goes and does his usual. He has actually physically pushed me off him in the past in order to get to my mouth.

Does anyone have any tips as to how I can approach this again. Obviously I don't want to make him uncomfortable but he says he isn't so I can only assume it is habit. I just feel a bit used by it all, like I'm not really taking part in it.

That's nasty. And selfish. I'd be walking away or not doing it at all.

She has always said that he will kill me if I stay with him.

That’s an incredibly strong statement from your Mum. Unless she’s a huge drama queen (I’m guessing not) then she is seeing something in him that is extremely wrong. You just don’t say things like that flippantly. She must be worried sick.

I’m so pleased you’ve posted this thread and I really hope you manage to get away from this man.

She has always said that he will kill me if I stay with him.

That suggests there is way more going on here than your Mum not liking him. Has he been violent in the past OP?

He has never been violent to me but when he was younger he used to be a bit of a fighter. He was always 'clever' enough not to get in trouble and invariably someone else got the blame.

Don't ever go back.

The more you reveal the worst he gets (and the more certain it is it that it was about power control and dominance). Are you still resolved not to go back

Ugh. I hate men who do this. And fwiw I don’t mind a partner finishing in my mouth but a man who will never come inside you or prefers not to has serious issues imo.

A wise woman once said if you want to see the true nature of a man, try saying no.

He sounds awful.

Just Listen to your mum. You will see in a few months she was right.

What are you going to do now OP? Has he could reacted you today?
Hope you are ok

How you ok, be very careful as he sounds. Very controlling and won’t like having the power taken away from him

Please don’t go back

He messaged me a couple of times over the weekend. I haven't responded.

I'm having a wobble. I miss him (or who I thought he was). I'm just going to try to keep busy. I have now blocked his number.

Stay strong OP. Don't go back, he's vile.

New Rules - Dua Lipa

^One, don't pick up the phone
You know he's only calling 'cause he's drunk and alone
Two, don't let him in
You have to kick him out again
Three, don't be his friend
You know you're gonna wake up in his bed in the morning
And if you're under him
You ain't getting over him^

I can understand why it’s hard. You’ve gone from is it weird that my boyfriend.......to maybe (hopefully) seeing that this isn’t the only issue in this relationship. There does seem to be many aspects to the relationship which show him to be bullying and abusive, which you seem to have realised now. This isn’t a simple thing where he can change for you, or you can change him. I think you are best away from the situation and from him. I hope you have the strength to stay away xx

you are doing the right thing OP. You may miss him but you sound much better off without him. Stay strong. You deserve much better.

Definitely doing the right thing. Good luck

Well done OP. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

You’ve got it OP. You’re missing who you wanted him to be. But he isn’t who you thought he was and who you wanted him to be. He is a dominant controlling arse who will ruin your life. Stay strong and re-engage with your friends and use your mum for strength. Take care of yourself

Please, please don't go back...you deserve so much more,
if I was your mum I would be desperate for you to get away from this creep

Please stay strong. You are a woman to be respected, not a cum bucket I'm so angry for you!

He sounds an absolute cunt OP.

I bet you are ģorgeous and funny and kind and clever. Stay away from him. He is bad news

Glad you broke up with him OP

Sadly, this kind of attitude is very prevalent in men who watch, and project from porn onto their OHs. You're far, far more than the cum receptacle he's treating you as.