He never comes inside me

[RadtoShayer]

My DP never comes inside me. He always pulls out and wants to ejaculate into my mouth.

Whilst I mostly don't mind this, for me, sex is about feeling close to someone and it doesn't really feel like I'm close to him when he is pulling out hurriedly and trying to change position in order to come in my mouth.

I've spoken to him about this and asked if sometimes we could have more romantic sex. It hasn't happened. In over four years he has probably came inside me five or six times. The rest is in my mouth.

I'm really starting to get fed up of this. I've asked him and he says he isn't uncomfortable about pregnancy, it is just something he has always done and he enjoys the visual aspect of it. When I raise it with him he says he will finish anywhere I want but then just goes and does his usual. He has actually physically pushed me off him in the past in order to get to my mouth.

Does anyone have any tips as to how I can approach this again. Obviously I don't want to make him uncomfortable but he says he isn't so I can only assume it is habit. I just feel a bit used by it all, like I'm not really taking part in it.

Who gives a shit about him being uncomfortable! He clearly cares not one jot about your feelings.

Each to their own, but the thought of my husband cumming in my mouth after sex, every time turns my stomach.

If you enjoy that kind of thing then fair play, but you obviously don't and it's all about his selfish needs.

Agree with Trojans. Walk away. How dare he physically push you around to get his own way. What an arsehole.

He watches a lot of porn doesn't he?
In his mind, is sex something you do together, or something he does to you?

When you say he enjoys the visual aspect, do you enjoy it? From what you say, you don't. So why is it continuing to happen?

He makes me feel rather sick. Pushing you away so he can offload in your mouth? He has NO respect for you, or women in general. Fair enough as an occasional thing to get him/you going, but every time is unpleasant.

Thoroughly disrespectful & the pushing is not on. What he is trying to do, is nice between two consenting partners but, you’re not consenting & he’s being awful

He does watch a lot of porn. I asked him about this as I was worried it had influenced him in that way. He denied it and said even before he watched porn, this was something he liked to do.

Nah, its a porn habit. I image quite a few women would really hate this an wouldnt let him do it even occasionally!

I know - I didn't really buy his excuse either. He also tried to tell me that none of his previous partners have ever expressed any dissatisfaction about his finishing preferences.

As I said, I don't mind it even 50% of the time but when it is every single time, it starts to spoil your enjoyment, as you can't relax in the moment knowing that you've got to be ready to change position. Also, more often than not, he doesn't get to my mouth in time and it goes all over me.

A firm discussion is needed but I'm not really one for confrontation!

Nope. I wouldn't feel like I'd been close to someone if they came in my mouth rather than in me. I'd feel used.

If he's not listening, don't stay

To be fair. It’s a fair point about pregnancy, I mean every time there’s a DP/DH that doesn’t want a child after conception, there’s always loads of “ well he knew what he was doing when he was cumming in you/ not taking care of his own contraception.” So pulling out is a method “ not the best but still. Doesn’t mean he gets to cum in your mouth whenever he wants though

He says it isn't about avoiding pregnancy. I've also got an IUD so it's pretty reliable.

I will have a discussion with him later.

He's being incredibly disrespectful. Agree with PPs who say that the next time he says he'll finish inside you, then tried to pull out, you get up and walk out. I hope you can talk to him calmly and that he listens.

He also tried to tell me that none of his previous partners have ever expressed any dissatisfaction about his finishing preferences.

Manipulation. His exes didn't have a problem with it so you shouldn't either...or you are being unreasonable.

Your situation would be an incredible turn off for me, I would feel like a porn prop doing that every single time. Sex is about both of you. I hope you can make him understand your feelings op. What you want is just as important.

just say you don't like it or try on kiss him straight after and give him a mouthful

I just think he'd be so disappointed if I said I didn't like it. He always goes on about how he loves doing it my mouth. All I want is some consideration for what I like. Thanks again for everybody's input.

What concerns you most here is HIM feeling disappointed if you said you didn't like it?
Regardless of your feelings, or what's actually going on? What does it matter if he feels fucking disappointed.

You don't want to make him uncomfortable. You don't want to disappoint him. Does he have any interest at all in what you want?

Totally a porn thing. Yuck

Also, more often than not, he doesn't get to my mouth in time and it goes all over me.

Nice.

I would tell him I didn’t like it and not to do it again. If he did-I would walk away. If he then tried to put anything in my mouth-it would get bitten

Maybe stop opening your mouth for him then?

Maybe stop opening your mouth for him then?

Yeah that’s it solved, easy isn’t it! It’s OPs fault because she shouldn’t open her mouth!!

Get a bloody grip!! It’s not her fault!

What a repulsive specimen.
I'd tell him to f*ck off, permanently.