Should I help my family? (sorry, very long and complicated!)

[spursmum]

I'm in a bit of a pickle and really need some advice!! My family is all over the place and everyone seems to be coming to me for help.
Lets start with my mother, she's managed to get herself into a bit so debt(nothing compared to mine...£8000, hers is only £1000) has got bailiffs chasing her and had the cheek to change her address on the store card to mine so I get the treatening letters!! Now she is asking me for money even though she would not help me when i was struggling to buy food for me and my ds.
Next is my aunt and cousins. My uncle lives across the road from me since he split from my aunt and has been doing alright for himself. I popped over for a chat and found that my aunt and 3 cousins had moved in after being evicted( 5 people, 3 dogs, 2 guinea pigs and a rabbit in a tiny 2 bedroom bungalow!) The problem is that now they are dropping hints about some of them moving in with me for a while! Don't get me wrong I love my family but I don't see why I should put myself out for a family that didn't help me. I'm a single mum so I would loose my benefits(shallow,i know but I need them to survive) and I've worked bloody hard to get my life in order and to learn from my mistakes even if they don't learn from theirs.
Also just for good measure, one of my cousins is a "tea leafing" little cow, she stole from me when they were helping me move!
Sorry for the rant and I hope this is not too complicated but am I being selfish for not helping? TIA

[misdee]

what!!!!!

stupid woman. tell her to get off her lazt arse then!!

(she doesnt look at mumsnet does she?)

[sparklymieow]

glad that everyone agrees with me......... DON'T DO IT!!!!!!

[spursmum]

my mother can't even work the computer(not that my dad would let her near it!)
She works but thats "her" money, dad pays most of the bills.
She specifically asked for a digital camera that had a printer dock because she can't use the computer and won't go to Boots with the memory card.