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will sex be expected if we have already had phone sex?

57 replies

wrongimpression · 17/02/2010 17:00

so, this will be date 2 ( have seen the 3 date thread )

first date was a good few weeks ago but we have been unable to meet up again due to work/prior committments and the fact that i was sort of seeing someone else.

I said no phone sex and that sort of lasted about 2 days.
Lots of phone sex. Hes very good at it

Second date is tomorrow. Hes said he doesnt expect anything other than just meeting up with me again - but realistically....???

how likey do you think this is to be true?

OP posts:
coldtits · 17/02/2010 17:01

Realistically, it doesn't matter what he expects. You decide what you want to give him and you keep it at that.

A bit like giving someone a present.

SpicedGerkin · 17/02/2010 17:02

What coldtits said.

IndigoSky · 17/02/2010 17:04

Is phone sex just someone talking you through a wank?

Original poster
wrongimpression · 17/02/2010 17:08

lol - a bit like giving someone a present!

personally, im rather hoping for a shag.....i think. I just think its a bit odd and probably quite unlikely that hes not ecxpecting anymore.
Men are odd.

But i supose its sort of nice for him to say so, takes the pressure off?

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SixtyFootDoll · 17/02/2010 17:11

How dos phone sex work?
Do yuo stick your mobile up your fanjo on vibrate?

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wrongimpression · 17/02/2010 17:15

sixty- do you really not know how phone sex works?
really?

ah - you are missing out.

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SixtyFootDoll · 17/02/2010 17:16

wi _ i have been married a long time, mobiles werent around when I was 'courting' LOL!!

Original poster
wrongimpression · 17/02/2010 17:20

i was married for a long time too.... divorced 2 years.

You can still have phone sex on landlines... heck, you can still have phone sex when married. I frequently did.

OP posts:
higgle · 17/02/2010 21:13

Please tell us a bit more about phone sex and what you have to do to be very good at it, I'm afraid I'm rather ignorant and would love to know more

higgle · 17/02/2010 21:13

Please tell us a bit more about phone sex and what you have to do to be very good at it, I'm afraid I'm rather ignorant and would love to know more

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 11:48

I want to know what phone sex is too

all this phone/text/MSN/webcam bollocks does is confuse the issue

in my day, you had a few dates face-to-face (insert number of your choice) then you worked up closer and closer to full sex with your sexual organs actually being in physical contact

the rest of that shit just seems silly to me and just seems to lead to more angst and questioning of yourself (as evidenced by this OP)

but then, I am old

Niftyblue · 18/02/2010 12:01

Sat waiting for it to be explained.........

sincitylover · 18/02/2010 12:05

Phone sex and text sex is great fun

sincitylover · 18/02/2010 12:06

are

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 18/02/2010 12:06

Now hang on, AF, respect and all but phone sex is great. It's what we did when we were teenagers and didn't have anywhere to spend a few hours together in private.

Well, and then I married a man who travelled for work a lot. Lifesaver, phone sex. I sort of miss it, actually.

Wrongimpression, he's definitely wanting a shag. Come on, your voice has already taken him to his happy place, he's wanting more than that this time.

But he's telling you no expectations meaning no pressure. He sounds like a nice bloke.

Go, spend some time, and if the mood takes you, jump the man.

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 12:15

well, respect and all {wink] but still nobody has actually explained what phone sex is

SolidGoldBrass · 18/02/2010 12:19

He might want a shag. So might you. But neither of you is entitled to one.
Bear in mind that even if you havehad sex with someone, it doesn't mean they have a right to have it with you again. Not even if you are married to them.
Oh and BTW phone sex is talking about sex and suggesting the other person imagines doing certain things or indeed doing them, maybe playing with yourself and describing it to the person on the other end of the phone, etc (or if one of you is in fact doing it on a commmercial basis, getting busy with some rubber gloves, a saveloy and an electric toothbrush or moaning happily while you MN read the paper).

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 18/02/2010 12:22

Ha!

Well.

Er.

It's when you talk each other through a fantasy and both get off at the same time so you can hear one another.

So you could be saying 'We're at a crowded party. We're dancing. No-one can see how close we're standing, because the lights are dim. I'm moving closer to you, running my hand up the back of your leg, into that warm secret place...' or you could be more simple 'Right now, I'm lying in bed, talking to you. I'm wearing my silky nightgown. I knew you were going to call, so earlier this evening I ran a bath. A deep, hot bath. And then I slid smoothly, easily, deep into the hot, wet water...'

Or, if you're my ex-boyfriend, you take more of a 'I'm so turned on. You should see my cock. I have it in my hand. Listen' sort of tack. But subtlety wasn't his fine point.

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 12:24

but how do you stop yourself being distracted by the washing-up ?

ginnny · 18/02/2010 12:33

It all sounds too much like hard work to me. I'd prefer the real thing
OP - if you want to do it then do it. If not then don't. Simples

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 18/02/2010 12:37

I could ask the same about real sex, AF! If you're distracted, you're not doing it right surely?

wastwinsetandpearls · 18/02/2010 12:38

I have just paid of my credit card, the excitment made me quite moist. Probably the closest I get to phone sex.

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 12:44

I think what I mean is...the lack of physicality would take something away from it

When I am on the phone, my eyes are roaming around, my mind isn't on the "job" as it were, but then I guess talking to my mum on the phone and checking for dust on top of the telly is not quite the same thing...

it would compare I suppose to counting cracks in the ceiling

maybe I am not very good at fantasising, and better at doing