will sex be expected if we have already had phone sex?

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so, this will be date 2 ( have seen the 3 date thread )

first date was a good few weeks ago but we have been unable to meet up again due to work/prior committments and the fact that i was sort of seeing someone else.

I said no phone sex and that sort of lasted about 2 days.
Lots of phone sex. Hes very good at it

Second date is tomorrow. Hes said he doesnt expect anything other than just meeting up with me again - but realistically....???

how likey do you think this is to be true?

Lol at anyfucker.

I would be the same, would probably get distracted by something on the telly and go ooooh at inappropriate moments, or make excited noises at an advert in it be misconrtsued at excitement over DP's razzle fantasies.

Or, actually, I just coulnd't be arsed.

God help me if I ever finish with DP. This dating mullarkey sounds like too much hard work.

I know getorf

I would just have to find an old gimmer like me who does things the old fashioned way

I can see though if you were apart for long periods of time, you have to get your jollies from somewhere

Eeewwww phone sex . Still, I suppose everyone expects it these days, like brazilian waxes and bumsex. There's something to be said for being with the same man for 19 years after all !

Nope, never done phone sex, don't "get" the concept, not even when DH was on the other side of the world for 6 months, the rauchiest photos he had, were me in my bikini! ( I was a size 10 in those days though).

We used to write filthy letters (blueys) to each other and he had a pair of my knickers, something far more permanent and much sexier than trying to hold a phone whilst fiddling .

The webcam sex thing I find completely ridiculous.
Ashley Cole for example, is a dickhead.

love the idea of filthy letters. I too don't get the idea of phone sex - but then I am an old fart - DH and I have been together about 20 years and when we lived in different cities we house shared so couldn't really be having phone sex in the kitchen whilst house mates cooked their beans on toast!

lol SGB at the idea of phone sex while mumsnetting! Like the other oldies here, totally alien concept, phone sex... When I was a teenager, when we finally got a phone (I was 15 ) the phone was in the draughty hall by the stairs with my dad poking his head out the living room every so often frowning about the bill...
beginning to think maybe a good idea to stay married 'cos this phone stuff dating sounds terrifying....

forgot to say OP - he sounds like a nice guy re the 'not expecting it' - but you can bet if you do, he will have fun!

If you are having phone sex you are likely to be on the phone in your bedroom, so no distractions like TV, washing up, dads poking their heads in You do need a private phone/cordless phone/mobile phone really if there are any other adults in the house at all.

I have never had phone sex but I have flirted quite sexually on the phone, alone in my room (so probably the closest I have got - I would not want to listen to a bloke wanking though) and I have had cyber sex (both seriously and in a taking-the-piss way) - have stripped on webcam but never watched anyone wanking on one - again, it just does not appeal to me at all!

Agree that it doesn't matter what he is expecting and it sounds as though he is saying no pressure which is nice

the sound of a man wanking is not a turn-on

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I agree AF - some people must like it though...?

I think the turn on is supposed to be the talking dirty. You don't have to do the role play thing (Sorry, tortoise, but "up the back of your leg, into that warm secret place..." is making me shudder!!) - you can just say "I'd like to do X to you right now" or "When you get back I am going to ..." etc etc.

Still not for everyone I suppose. The fantasy thing I always found a bit fake TBH.

well yes, I get the "when you get back I am going to...< insert sex act of choice >..."

but I don't see that as an end in itself...I see that as an invitation to DH decide not to go for that quick drink after work and get home immediately

Of course But not much use if DH is several hundred miles away on business!

I know bertie, I accept you gotta get your jollies however you can in that situation

lol at aAF
i am teh same
i think dh would laugh me out of town if i started

hm" im on the mere bypass on the A303"

me " ooh I am in the bath in a divers suit"

him " you are where? are the kids ok?"

me "I am unlaoding the dishwasher in a negligee"

him £" oh thats nice"

arf

Well, like every other type of sexual behaviour, it works for some people and not others. (Even when it is work, there are times when it can actually be enjoyable BTW).

tortoise...WET water?really?shocking!!

waste lol at damp pants

yeah,phone sex all a bit cringey for me,i've never been good at dirty sex talk,and the thought of doing it over the phone makes me go red and say aaaaarrrrrgggghhhh!!

i prefer a vigorous porking one to one!

oh,look...i CAN talk dirty

well done MB !

btw, I like a bloody good rogering too

you can't get that on the end of a phone

lol at "warm secret place"

sorry - phone sex with a (very nearly) stranger sounds icky.

I also think that if you cant talk about sex - and I mean the "I'm not ready/ have you been checked for std's" variety, then you should not be doing it.

Yes I KNOW I sound old/boring/prudish/etc etc

anyfucker...that depends on the phone!!

purpleduck...if i said "my secret place" to my dh,he'd piss himself..and who could blame him.also,if i started going on about hot deep "wet" baths,he would be like,never mind the fucking washing part..can we get to the hot fanny action?!

mb...you are a dirty-talking mare !!

Good God...who let you out of your box ???

these quiet ones....

< fans self >

yes,got myself quite over-excited there !!

i'm not half as dirty as my dh would like i can assure you!

keep working on it, MB

win/win situation !!