He was like this when we met so I know I shouldn't complain now... But DH never says romantic/mushy/affectionate stuff to me. It hit me last night because we had some friends over and the bloke said quite a few sweet things to, or about, his DW and they've been together 17 years. DH said nothing thrilling whatsoever beyond the friendly "That meal was nice" stuff.
DH does quite sweet stuff on Valentine's and my birthday, but words? Forget it.
Have spoken to him about this and his reply was, "I'm a man!" But I think, I'm a woman and I need some mushiness from him.
This is further compounded by the fact that we haven't shagged for ages, so my confidence is low anyway.
I want keen texts every so often. I want him to make me feel that he fancies me, instead of our being like flatmates. I want him go say keen things about me when we're with other people. I need these things because without them, I'm left insecure. Maybe he is doing it on purpose to keep me on my toes? Or is he just not in love with me??
What can I do? I can't talk to him about this again without looking impossibly needy, and I've had enough of being the one who says things first. I think he needs a kick up the arse, tbh. Any ideas?
Fark - forgot to namechange. Oh well!