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So how much time IS good for sex in your opinion - 45 mins (or less or more)?

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Fizzfiend · 06/01/2009 17:30

Reading the thread about lack of libido I was interested to see that someone said that 45 mins foreplay was normal for them. I always feel guilty if DP spends too much time trying to get me going. But is this normal...I do think that women take a long time to warm up properly. How much time does your DP/DH spend on foreplay?

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Lauriefairyonthetreeeatscake · 06/01/2009 17:32

about 20-25 minutes - then we are very good to go

My dh would love to do foreplay on me for hours - I never feel guilty at how much time he spends appreciating my bod

Picante · 06/01/2009 17:33

Usually get it done in an ad break.

Weegle · 06/01/2009 17:33

ooh approximately 30 seconds - 6 minutes I should think!

TWINSETinapeartree · 06/01/2009 17:34

I actually don't have a clue, have never felt the inclination to time it.

cazboldy · 06/01/2009 17:35

sometimes 5 mins , sometimes 20.... depends on if either of us are tired, kids waking up etc etc etc

and even if it's quick - you can always do it again later

LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 17:36

Ok now i'm feeling really I meant he wants to spend 45 mins on the sex part not the foreplay part thats normally pretty quick. I wish he'd spend more time on foreplay.......

snigger · 06/01/2009 17:36

I usually get my arse slapped while I'm fishing socks from under random beds - that tends to be all the forewarning I get.

I'm as bad though - DH particularly appreciates my Les Dawson "Knickers Knackers Knockers" impression.

MarlaSinger · 06/01/2009 17:37

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OneLieIn · 06/01/2009 17:38

Whatever I can get

MinkyBorage · 06/01/2009 17:38

omg, we generally have the whole thing over with within 10 mins!45 mins??? I wouldn't just be dealing with an orgasm, but a heart attack if h spent 45 mins on foreplay!

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LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 17:48

45 mins (UPTO I'll TELL YOU - this isn't always happening all the time just alot of it) on the in and out bit.

BouncingTurtle · 06/01/2009 17:49

I'm pretty sure me and Dh can get the job done in 10mins...

BitOfFun · 06/01/2009 17:52

It totally varies- can be 5 minutes whole thing done and dusted or a couple of hours sometimes (usually when I am very drunk and filthy) Completely depends on what mood you're in I think.

Fizzfiend · 06/01/2009 17:54

I figure most people have around a 10 min time on the "in and out bit!" LOL

But really what interests me is the foreplay stuff. Like I said I always feel guilty like it's taking too long, but it seems like a few of you have 20-45 mins of it. I might have to stop feeling guilty!

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LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 17:56

I'd stop feeling guilty!! I'm gonna be talking to DP about changing the timing around abit. lol

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LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 18:02

No cos although it could take that long he's always trying to please me so he wants to change it around alot and change the speeds, style etc (I can't believe I'm posting this!!) so it doesn't feel sore.

I just dont enjoy it cos it doesn't do it for me, I prefer the foreplay.

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LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 18:04

MMJ

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LuckySalem · 06/01/2009 18:07

LMAO - You could always spend some time preparing for him

DP always prides himself on his staying power but I wish he didn't have as much sometimes.

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