just need a hug and sympathy to the best of MN's abilities.................((tis psychomum with aunt and mother issues))

[PsychoAxeMurdererMum]

aunty rang.

tis my mothers appraisal tomorrow (in her 'home')

I am requested to go

I have had a shite day regarding DD3's DX

I told aunty

she asked where she could have picked it up from, and why I let her catch such a thing (DD3 this is, and she has been found to have a blood disorder.....not something 'catchable')

she said I need to go to visit mother

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

need an MN hug ((DH watching fotty and so uncaring at the mo))

Big ((((((((HUGS))))))))) for you.

Kick up the arse for your DH

Sending thrush vibes to your aunty.

Why do you have to go? Will it really have an impact if you don't? Aunty doesn't sound like she gets it at all - the silly billy. Give DH a gentle punch in the face. (())

Being hard hearted about it, what difference would it make if you were there?

Poor DD3 BTW. And poor you.

tell her you can't as you have promised to have DS for me (I know you haven't but she doesn't)

Husbands are shit tonight. Mine brought me a glass of milk. That is IT. I haven't even had a hug

@ you letting her catch it. Tis like that nasty dirty dyslexia

flame, you made me giggle with the dyslexia comment!!!

Mum might well know if I don;t turn up seeing as she has written to aunty to ask her to ring me ((get this.......aunty is now so fucked off with my mother that even her only contact is by letter ))

not that I care too much, it is just the angry feelings she arouses.

I think I am coping and able to deal with her, ad she rings and puts me back into 10yo mode

oh, and I did say that I am plannign to have fameboy from 12.30 so could not go.

so she says it is at 10am

dropped myself hugely in that one

missed any t hreads abotu your DD's Dx. sorry to hear of her Dx.

If it helps when my aunt was told Ds had Autism she said that it served me right for not reading the newspapers abotu all this MMr stuff. - Ds hadn't even had the MMR.

sadly such ignorance is rife.
But to the problem at hand, yes it probably would be better for your mum if you were there. but sometimes you need to say no..even to your closest family.

mamazon, I posted in special needs. I had a wee bit of trouble with how I felt on getting the DX (I have fought with the paeds for many years, and was told by one that DD was 'bizarre'......I thought I would feel relief to be told that what I suspected was right, and yet just felt sick and tearful.....flame said that SN board would be great as they often experience similar feelings!).

many sympathies about how your aunt reacted. is it an age/generation thing do you wonder???

oh, and regardng my mum...she is schizophrenic. there is not much that an appraisal can tell that I don;t already know, and TBH.....she scares me

{{{{hugs}}}} for you PsychoMum

Come out with me instead and we can have a goatburger happy meal! I will ring in sick from work specially.

Hope all goes well whatever you decide to do.

goatburger happy meal sounds like a grand plan

I love you!

Hope you don't think I am being flippant and unsympathetic btw. I know that the situation re your mother (and other stuff) isn't easy.

aww goober......'fanks (and why you goober again, I quite like the taste of cherry chapstick)

lolliepop.......flippant is fiiine........I like that as much as the hugs

I do insist on troll made wine tho with the goat burger, fruit shoots just don;t quite hit the palate in the same way anymore!!!

So that's 2 large bottles of fizzy wine, 2 goatburgers 2 large fries and some doughnuts. That'll do to start I think.

Night night PsychoMum.

on that meal you reckon you can sleep.....?/??

night night, and thankyou!

Ha, I don't sleep, my gorgeous dd2 makes sure of that. . I just lie in bed with my hot water bottle and one ear on the monitor.

now thats the type of night night that makes sense.

I, on the other hand, will sit here until DH shows his face again, and then snuggle down!

sending ((((((((hugs)))))))), hope you get snuggled down soon and dh makes up for the footie addiction

thankyou jes

DH will learn from this, believe me[hm].....!

I complained about the lack of gooberness

Did you agree to go with her, or meet her there? If it is meeting her there, phone the home and tell them you have an emergency/sickness/summat. THEY will then have to deal with telling Auntie

!NO!

she bloody rang me and told me I HAD to go as she and clive (one shining silver lining at least) were not going, and as I had the problem last year of clive, and mum 'attacked' aunty last year too......me going alon would be a very good thing

not sure in whose world it is a very good thing, but she seems to think so, and of course, we all know, she is right.....................................argh