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Would this piss you off?

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passTheAsprin · 29/08/2008 23:46

You go out for a meal with a fairly newish partner (say 6 months). You agree before hand to split the cost 50/50.

You order a main meal that costs £6 and 2 drinks at roughtly £2 each.
He orders a main meal at £9, a starter at £6. A side order at £3 and 2 drinks at roughly £3 each. The meal comes to £34. Is it mean to silently begrudge paying half towards this meal?

Then say a few weeks later you go for another meal. He asked you if you would like to go and made no mention of going halfs. So you go and when food is ordered you order main meal at £6 again and a couple of drinks. He again goes for a starter, 2 side orders, the most expensive main meal and expensive drinks and when the bill is brought he asks if its ok to go halfs again.

I don't mind paying my way but I think he's taking the piss a bit. He works full time and has much more disposable income than I do (single parent currently on income support). Or am I being tight?

OP posts:
catsmother · 30/08/2008 11:44

He is taking the absolute piss, and that is very worrying early on in a relationship.

Furthermore, he knows money is tight for you and he still expects you to cough up for him to eat well ....... whilst at the same time you choose more affordable dishes. WTF ?!

Sorry to be blunt but he doesn't care about you, he is a user. I bet that as soon as you put your foot down about this you won't see him for dust and he'll move on to some other poor sap. I also bet that his parting shot will be along the lines of you being mean !

Don't give him the chance. Dump him and then refuse to discuss anything with him. Find someone who respects you.

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