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Please analise this and tell me if I'm stupid to believe it

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makemeanon · 19/08/2008 22:48

DH teaches a martial art class. Last night after his class he didn't come home all night, this has happened before but only when we've been having troubles and he's gone off to his brothers or something.

Anyway I got a text from him and 10.10pm saying he was ok and not to worry, he'd got stuck in the school and was awaiting the caretaker to come and let him out this to me sounded ridiculous but I text back and asked how long he'd be. He replied "don't know, could take a while, caretaker lives in (next village), don't wait up, I'll be fine".

So to cut a long story short he arrived home at 5am . I didn't believe him at all so contacted the actual caretaker and made up some story about DH leaving something there when he left 'this morning'. Caretaker seemed to know that DH hadn't left the school until the morning but said he'd been stuck there with a young lady and did I know if she was ok

Turns out he'd stayed in the school all night with one of his young students. All innocently apparantly but I've had worries about her before. Texting him about stupid stuff and seemingly lusting over him.

Caretaker finished by saying it was lucky DH found his own key but thought he was daft to stay there so long "surely he couldve found it before 4am" he said.

This whole story sounds a load of bullshit to me. What do you reckon?

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beanieb · 20/08/2008 15:31

Is it a troll?

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MrsMattie · 20/08/2008 15:31

I'd rather not 'analise' you ...but yes, he is obviously talking utter shit

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MascaraOHara · 20/08/2008 15:31

on the other hand of course..

the care taker went to let them out.. and he'd held her there against her will and done all sorts of god awful things to her.. maybe the caretake was asking if she was ok because she looked like she was in a state.. maybe she's sat at home now, being too scared to report that man she was lusting after...

...maybe that's the route you could take this thread down...

I'll be on the other side of the bridge eating all the juicy clover if anybody needs me.

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Jazzicatz · 20/08/2008 15:33

I would say it was a troll - maybe I am wrong but as one of the other posters says it sounds like something out of a really bad porno!

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warthog · 20/08/2008 15:37

i think he's lying.

but you've got to play this carefully now. he thinks you don't suspect anything. don't blow it by confronting him now with no evidence. i'm sorry to say but i would snoop and read his text msgs for the next few days. try and get as much info as poss before you confront him and he has a chance to cover his tracks.

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forevercleaning · 20/08/2008 15:42

deffo a trip trap, there seems to be a pattern, in at the beginning to respond to the first couple of posters, then buggers off never to be seen or heard of again.

Oh, and it's the only post this person has done too..

Can't understand the reason for it though?

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Remotew · 20/08/2008 15:50

A couple of threads today have had flaws in them. I don't mind a funny troll but it makes you suspect every one and examine for the flaws as these trolls arn't that bright.

Also I posted a thread yesterday (name changed so looked like a newbie) and started thinking I must get it right to make it sound credible which it was. Its just gets a bit tiresome.

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zippitippitoes · 20/08/2008 15:51

well thats it they all sound bloody unbelievable

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Hecate · 20/08/2008 15:54

Bollocks.

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HappyWoman · 20/08/2008 16:18

He obviously didnt stay the night in the school - he just told his wife that - but to cover his tracks phoned the caretaker at a resonable hour to tell him he had eventually found his key at 4am (just in case he needed back up and the op may phone caretaker). Caretaker who only knew of said incident in the morning obviously asked if anyone else was there - he paniced and said her name (as didnt want to get anyone else into trouble) and said she was in a real state and he had to comfort her (thus not having the time to find his keys). Of course all along he was in a hotel or at hers.

OP needs to be very clever and she will catch him out - say how worried you were once you got text and at say midnight sent a friend/relative who could not find them - he will then have to come up with more details - and more lies and traps.
Maybe suggest that this is so awful that something needs to be put into place and offer to contact school about how unacceptable it is to be able to be locked in school for such a long time and that the caretaker was no real help ect.

Him saying she is his stalker is rubbish too - when my h was having an affair and i thought i knew who it was (which of course i did) he said 'what her? - give me more credit i would go for a better looker than that! .

And if this is a troll i dont care i have given a new viewpoint at least.

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Niecie · 20/08/2008 17:44

OK assuming this isn't a troll and assuming that the girl really does have stalkerish tendencies, is it not possible that she could have hidden the key until 4am in the morning?

I agree it does seem a bit suspect that he should suddenly find his key but if he really didn't have it, could it not be because she had hidden it, hoping to spend some time with your DH, seduce him and entice him away from you but by 4am got bored/came to her senses/completed her seduction and made the key suddenly available again?

Doesn't mean he is innocent of any infidelity but on the other hand he may have been the victim of some serious scheming.

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zippitippitoes · 20/08/2008 17:46

any normal person would have got out through a window set off the alrm etc

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HappyWoman · 20/08/2008 18:29

or if he was the captive, telephoned his wife to call for help!

There must be some health and safety issues here too - his wife should put in a complaint to make sure this awful event never happens to anyone else.

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zippitippitoes · 20/08/2008 18:34

in fact he could have just done a kung fu style attack on the door or creeping tiger hidden dragon fly out the rooflight

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