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He’s great but be honest how much would this bother you?

43 replies

Shallll · 02/10/2026 10:45

I can’t believe I’m actually feeling like this as I know it is so so so superficial.

Started daring a lovely man. I am attracted to him. Met 6 times now and last time things progressed and I now know he has a small penis. It’s not tiny but definitely on the smaller side and I have only had 4 other partners but all been much bigger.

We haven’t had sex yet but this has made me feel funny about it. Is it a big deal? He is very into me, I know that sounds arrogant but I don’t want to hurt him. Is sex likely to be a bit rubbish?

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MintyBadgerPrincessCheese · 02/10/2026 10:48

I've been with men with penis sizes ranging from micropenis to gargantuan.

Honestly, it has ZERO effect on the woman's pleasure. In fact, too big is far worse, as it can actually injure you. If he's hot, and knows what he's doing, size really really does not matter.

graygoose · 02/10/2026 10:50

You don’t know until you try. My last partner was on the smaller side but he was amazing at other stuff and my pleasure what his number 1 priority. Also I wasn’t as sore when we had sex and could have it more often.

Genuinely, unless it’s a micro penis, size doesn’t make that much difference. I’ve also been with someone who was too big and that was the worst experience ever, we could barely have sex and eventually stopped because it was just too painful.

You cannot have any idea what he’s like in the sack unless you try. And if the only thing holding you back is knowing his penis is on the smaller side, thats not a reason imo.

SP2024 · 02/10/2026 10:52

Sorry to be crude but smaller when erect or when flaccid? It makes a difference. I did have a ONS with a guy who had a really small penis and tbh it was rubbish. But also had a FWB when younger who had a huge penis girth (normal length) that was actually painful at times! If it’s not a micro penis and just a bit smaller than others it’s probably fine. And hopefully he knows other things than just penetration to give the whole experience.

MrsShawnHatosy · 02/10/2026 10:53

He may be a genius with his fingers or his tongue! You won’t know until you try.

EppingIsFun · 02/10/2026 10:58

Depends how you get off. Depends how good he is at oral 😁

shhblackbag · 02/10/2026 11:05

In my experience they're great at other stuff and very focused on my pleasure. Best time I ever had. Also I was less sore, as PP said.

BillieWiper · 02/10/2026 11:11

It could well mean he's good at pleasuring women in other ways, or certain positions/moves where the 'size' isn't really what's stimulating you?
I mean most can have a nice orgasm without anything at all up your vagina so it shouldn't matter, as long as he cares that you're getting off.

You may also just have happened to have had slightly above average partners in the past?

Either way if you fancy him you may as well give it a try.

Original poster
Shallll · 02/10/2026 11:12

Ok thank you! Won’t be put off …!

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luckylavender · 02/10/2026 11:13

Sometimes I long for the time when we kept these things private

omghereistrouble · 02/10/2026 11:17

you know that old saying that its not what you have its how you use it. i have been with a man with a tiny penis but on the plus side it did not make me sore as i have a few issues since menopause downstairs. he was ace at oral sex so by the time it got to the actual sex i was past caring i had had so much pleasure and orgasms i was not bothered but still nice

Thetreesaregreeninspring · 02/10/2026 11:18

Less chance of cystitis after a marathon session.

bigboykitty · 02/10/2026 11:21

MintyBadgerPrincessCheese · 02/10/2026 10:48

I've been with men with penis sizes ranging from micropenis to gargantuan.

Honestly, it has ZERO effect on the woman's pleasure. In fact, too big is far worse, as it can actually injure you. If he's hot, and knows what he's doing, size really really does not matter.

You really can only speak for yourself here and not on behalf of women in general. It really matters to some women. Also not everyone with a small penis has amazing skills.

Do you fancy him @Shallll ? Has he told you he's small, or did you find out? I think you're putting yourself under pressure that if you have sex with him, you have to stick with him. You are working out whether the basic compatibility is there. You can end it at any time if not.

BingoJingo · 02/10/2026 11:43

luckylavender · 02/10/2026 11:13

Sometimes I long for the time when we kept these things private

Quite agree.

Gogogo75 · 02/10/2026 12:10

It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean!

MintyBadgerPrincessCheese · 02/10/2026 13:45

I didn't suggest that every man with a small penis has amazing skills. I said that if he knows what he's doing, size doesn't matter.

And it shouldn't either. Just as it wouldn't be acceptable if a man said, "I love this woman, and everything about her, but we're not compatible because she has small boobs"

CoatiCutie · 02/10/2026 13:45

Size does matter to some people, and would not get them same pleasure from either too small or too large - I for one would care and it would make a difference to me and my pleasure. Don't feel bad if the same is true for you OP.

Thatsthebottomline · 02/10/2026 20:44

Its a absolute deal breaker, he should be at least 16 inches.

LittleJustice · 02/10/2026 21:51

BingoJingo · 02/10/2026 11:43

Quite agree.

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Why come on this thread then?

2 comments trying to shame OP. It's a completely valid thing to ask.

BingoJingo · 02/10/2026 21:59

LittleJustice · 02/10/2026 21:51

Why come on this thread then?

2 comments trying to shame OP. It's a completely valid thing to ask.

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There is a sex thread for such matters. This is a bit personal and unedifying. Would you think it appropriate for a man to post about the size of a woman's genitals or breasts?

No... So why is it ok to post this type of intimate and quite personal subject in the relationships thread? Is it because the OP is a new poster and has not fulfilled the required membership period for posting on the sex thread?

Its a bit gruesome and I don't want to see it or hear it, and there was no pre-warning of the subject matter. Keep it to the sex thread for those that want to read about that type of thing.

AnonAnonmystery · 03/10/2026 07:20

@BingoJingo Don’t read it then. This doesn’t need to be on the sex board fgs. Sex is part of a relationship so it’s perfectly fine it’s been posted here.
In answer to the op, a small penis would put me off a bit but I’d still give it a try and see what he’s like: you both sound like you fancy each other so decide after. And tell us all about it too!! My partner after marriage has a massive one and I love it tbh😈

Ventosauris · 03/10/2026 09:29

The much anticipated time of entering will.... not be there.
Which would make me chose for none at all, rather than getting all worked up over nothing much.

BingoJingo · 03/10/2026 10:07

AnonAnonmystery · 03/10/2026 07:20

@BingoJingo Don’t read it then. This doesn’t need to be on the sex board fgs. Sex is part of a relationship so it’s perfectly fine it’s been posted here.
In answer to the op, a small penis would put me off a bit but I’d still give it a try and see what he’s like: you both sound like you fancy each other so decide after. And tell us all about it too!! My partner after marriage has a massive one and I love it tbh😈

I would not have opened the thread or read it if the title in any way reflected the subject matter... But it didn't.. Duh

I would hardly refer to this as a relationship - its dating at best. Relationships are of a different character and quality. HTH.

MouldyOldBaps · 03/10/2026 18:18

It’s not the size but what he does with it that matters.

Bonbon249 · 03/10/2026 18:20

There's a comic book character called Cerebos who is an intergalactic traveller - at some point someone asks if his 'equipment is always compatible with the female equivalent on various planets, he replies' If you've got fingers and a tongue, everything else is gravy'. So, if the man in question can use all the tools at his disposal , then you might have a really good time!