I’m after some advice regarding my relationship with my husband. We have been together for around 13 years and have 4 children together. We own a house and both work with him being the breadwinner.
Over the years I have noticed that his behaviour and actions can sometimes not be very nice and I seem to always hide his actions from others. He is very snappy and short tempered with the kids. But around others, it come across like he is a very nice guy and has a laugh and a joke.
over the summer, I have been debating if I should leave.
I worry because he is very jealous, he says things like, you carry on doing whatever you’re doing on your phone talking to whoever you’re talking to. He always gets jealous about the people that i work with. Constantly telling me to quit my job. He says things like if we weren’t together no one will be stepping foot in this house especially another man. Things like you feed the kids shit food (I cook a homemade meal most nights, I may throw some ready made pasta for them one day a week). He had a week off and said that if he wasn’t low I would make him suicidal. Never wants to go on holiday abroad, but won’t let me and the kids go without him. He is very very close to his mum and sister and won’t say anything bad about them but is fine to slate my family. He has previously said that I am nothing without him and that he made me. He gets mad if I go to the works Xmas do, or anything like that. But is fine if I’m with a group of girls. He sees the worst in everyone and everything is worst case scenario. There are lots of different things that have gone on but I’m wondering if this is normal. As well as he gets on with the kids, he can be mean, and like I said snappy. He will give them a very horrible look with his eyes, shout or tell them to shut up, makes them cry and is very cruel about others and can be very judgmental. He will help others and do things for them and is very loyal. Im not sure what I'm asking, I just need some advice.