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Boyfriend's creepy comment

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Gutfeelingoverload · 24/08/2026 23:14

Name changed as mortified.
I've been told I need a colonoscopy and will need someone to pick me up and stay with me afterwards overnight. I asked my boyfriend and he made a "joke" about being able to do what he likes to me when sedated.
It repulsed me and I told him it was a bit sinister that he'd said that. We've been together for several years but not living together. He's fine most of the time but occasionally comes out with comments like this which I find unsettling and a massive turn off. He then goes into a mood when I complain. Each time this happens he goes down in my estimation. What would you do?

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TourDeChance · 27/08/2026 15:35

I wouldn't be hanging around to find out if your boyfriend is all talk and no action. Creepy.

Bananalanacake · 27/08/2026 16:05

So good he doesn't live with you, keep it that way.

Imbusytodaysorry · 27/08/2026 17:02

@Gutfeelingoverload this is shocking op!
Have you ended things ?
Do not let this man near you when you are vulnerable .
You can’t trust him .

FloydPink · 28/08/2026 15:44

outerspacepotato · 27/08/2026 15:30

Good for you. That doesn't mean it isn't painful for others.

I can't imagine advocating for or wanting women to go without pain control and or sedation for invasive diagnostic procedures. That's what you're advocating for. It's like the barbaric old days. Maybe we should take our own sticks and washcloths to bite down on. 🙄

I never said it wasn't painful for others, just my experience.

And what's the wanting women going without pain control come from? Talk about twisting things. I dont care if the person is male or female... have sedation if you want, I didnt and was glad not to

OtterlyAstounding · 29/08/2026 07:08

What would I do? Well, I'd have some self-respect and get rid of this prince among men. He's an absolute creep.

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