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Tracker

56 replies

spellingtest · 28/07/2026 08:07

I need to find an undetectable tracker. Any recommendations? It’s for a car

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DixonD · 28/07/2026 10:56

OP, out of interest, how did you manage to read his Chat GPT? Are you logged into his iCloud/Google account? Are you already stalking him online or have access to his devices?

You need to get yourself some help if you are struggling to handle this breakup in a way that does not involve you breaking the law. Breakups are horrible, we all know that, but you need to handle this with dignity, or you’re going to massively regret it later on. You will look back and cringe at your behaviour now.

BauhausOfEliott · 28/07/2026 11:09

spellingtest · 28/07/2026 08:17

Thanks for the sensible reply. I am being lied to I’m convinced because he wants to keep his image as the nice guy. It will give me closure.

Your desire for 'closure' doesn't justify you stalking someone.

You sound really unwell.

spellingtest · 28/07/2026 12:18

Hey Mums net is brutal but we know that😂. We have been together for many many years. We are not married. He showed me his ChatGPT and that showed up. I’m pretty sure I know the answer. There has been strange behaviour for the last few weeks and I’ve wondered if he was possibly seeing someone else. But his behaviour was also the same towards me. Loving, chatty, booking holidays together, talking about the future. That’s why it’s such a shock. When I say for everyone all our friends, our families. Everyone is saying the same. People that saw us at an event together just two weeks ago. That’s why is shocking and I guess I was looking for closure.
it’s been entertaining reading all the replies. Some brutal, some sympathetic and mostly very helpful so thank you for that. I’m not an unhinged crazy ex, I was looking for answers. And I’m not going to break the law, I’m going to be dignified. We are still living together and will be for quite a while due to the children and caring responsibilities. Thanks all ❤️

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IfIHadAHeart · 28/07/2026 12:23

Please don’t do this.

When I told my exH I wanted to divorce, that’s what he did to me. He had trackers and voice recorders in the house and car (before he moved out) and had people watching me. This has caused me long lasting anxiety and meant that for a very long time I didn’t feel safe in my home or my car. Years later, it’s still hard to shake sometimes.

He’s ended the relationship. Sometimes we don’t get the “closure” we need. That’s life.

BobbysDazzler · 28/07/2026 12:42

@spellingtest I've dropped you an inbox message.

BobbysDazzler · 28/07/2026 12:43

DixonD · 28/07/2026 10:50

Please don’t encourage her. It’s against the law.

I'm glad you told me that, I wasn't aware!

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