I need advice regarding the breakdown of my marriage. I have two children aged 10 and 5. A few days before Christmas my husband didn’t come home from a night out. I eventually got to the bottom of it and long story short he told me (after he had no choice) that he had been sleeping with men. This had happened a handful of times throughout the marriage and before we got married. He insists he’s not gay and it is “an itch he needed to scratch” I felt I had no choice but to ask for a divorce, I know his behaviour was unacceptable but I cannot find closure. I’ve recently found out he is dating someone else (a woman) and regularly sleeping with her. He will not get a STI test nor will he tell her the truth behind our split. I’m now struggling with why he would want to be with someone else but was more than happy to tear his family apart? Currently he moves back in every other weekend to see the children and I have to move out. I’ve done everything possible to protect the children and ensure they see their father but I’m living in a state of constant hurt and anxiety. When I asked again why he cheated and why he has moved on he told me “nobody wants to unwrap the same present over and over again” Despite having a great support network I feel completely lost and vulnerable. I have been in a relationship with this person since I was 15 (he was 21) and wonder if I will forever have this trauma bond with him that I cannot break. I don’t know where to begin in the process and I just wanted to vent to people who don’t know me.