Is it normal for a separated husband to expect this arrangement?

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My husband left me in February this year saying i made his life a misery, and he needed time to decide what he wanted next, but that he might take me back.

Then three weeks ago I found out he's being having an affair since April last year.

This is where I think he doesn't live on the same planet as the rest of us. He expects us to live together like this for years while he sees his girlfriend very openly including holidays and hotel stays. He's still lying about going to work to see her travelling hundreds of miles in a day.

He seems to think this is all normal and acceptable as we're separated and I drove him to have an affair. Is he mad thinking this is a normal way to live or am I naive and this is normal?

You don’t need a solicitor yet but it might help you navigate your living situation more clearly as it’s going to become impossible for you to live peacefully together. Apply for divorce online today using the link a previous poster sent. It’s £600. It’s a long process so start it as soon as you can. There will be plenty of time to obtain the right advice.

Ah, sorry yes, I missed that.
I was thinking this Aptil, ie 2 months after they separated.
That's not good at all !!!

Of course it’s not normal! Do nothing for him, just do what is necessary for you and your dc. Ignore him and his ridiculous family. If you don’t earn much, you can claim universal credit if you are separated even if in the same house. I’m hoping you have enough room so you haven’t got to be in his loathsome cheating company overnight.

Separated under the same roof rarely works
In theory you are both single people entitled to do whatever you want but the practicalities of that are unreasonable
separating completely is the only option

It’s time to file and to start disengaging from this twat, the person you want him to be isn’t lurking around a corner. This is who he is and probably always was. It might be wise to see a counsellor solo to help you and help you support your child through this difficult phase. The sooner you file, the sooner you will be free of this deluded twat.