This has happened a number of times now. Dp makes comic capital out of me in front of others. In other words he makes jokes at my expense then does the usual thing when I object of saying I can’t take a joke; ‘everyone else got it’, etc.
I’ve tried explaining that I don’t find it funny. It’s belittling and he is trying to get a cheap laugh at my expense.
Of course, then comes the gaslighting … ‘are you okay? This isn’t you’
That makes me even more angry if I’m honest. He fails to understand how misogynistic his strategies are. I’ve seen this happen with my friend who experiences the same (laughing at not with) by her dp and 2 adult sons.
I think I’ve had enough. Short of calling it a day, is there anything else I can do to make him see this for what it is?