BF said that he would never date again if he was single with kids

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So me and my BF were watching first dates the other night in which he says "You know, if we had kids and split up together then there is zero point in getting into a relationship". He says that if he was a single father then he'd just focus on his kids and if he needed sex then would just hookup with women but doesnt care about emotional support or connection as he would miss sex more. He thinks there is no point in being in a relationship or getting married if your not planning on having kids.

Another thing he says is that he could never love or feel anything for another woman

But this thread is not about a man who is moving on from a loving relationship because he wants children.

Are you just constructing straw men purely for the purpose of ranting about how hypocritical women are?

So your bf said if he had kids and then became single he would focus on his kids and not enter another relationship? Meaning his kids would be his priority.
What a scumbag, leave him at once 🙈

Saying it and doing it are not the same thing.

It was a counter point. That's all.

But, yes, I do think there is a lot of hypocrisy.

Largely stemming from the MN position of men don't want children or families and don’t care about them or ever prioritise them. Which is incorrect.

And whatever a woman does, she's always right. Which is also incorrect.

The thread isn't actually about anything tangible.

It's a load of speculation based upon a few comments a complete stranger made without any real context that he probably didn't actually give much thought to at the time and has probably forgotten he said!

Do you want kids?

But it wasn’t a counterpoint. It was a straw man.

Hypocrisy is when the thing you’re doing is the same as the thing you’re arguing against. Which isn’t the case here.

Now you’re just flailing around digging yourself in deeper.

But this thread is not about a man who is moving on from a loving relationship because he wants children.

Exactly. It's about a childless, unmarried woman who is in a relationship with a man who thinks relationships are pointless without children or marriage. And she's now thinking "well, does that mean our relationship is pointless?"

No strawman is saying that he will leave the loving relationship if there are no children. He said if they had children and split up he wouldn't seek another relationship.

But if your point was true, what would be the issue with that? There are countless threads on here about men refusing to have children and the advice being to leave and find a man that does.

There are countless threads on MN about which hat would go well with the dress shown. That’s not what this thread is about though, and nor is it about the other threads you irrelevantly raised.

Nothing wrong with that, if me and dh spilt up I wouldn’t get into another relationship either. Really do not understand people who have to constantly be in relationships and not just be happy!

LTB right now how very dare him want to prioritise his kids over anything else.

Come on op seriously the world needs far more men like this!

He doesn't have kids!!!

I'm speaking in hypertheical terms and the rest is sarcasm!

I think this is how all men in that situation think, except they don't tell the women they sleep with they only want something casual

So he cba with your actual relationship, it’s just kids and/or hookups. Nice.

I totally agree with him to be honest, this would be my way of thinking as well if my partner and I ever split

I also agree with him.