The Dating Thread 58 - will you swoon in June? 🌸🌼🌸

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

• If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!

-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Morning & Thanks ☺️.

I agree , we were messaging until 1.30 , it’s all banter & flirting.
There is massive sexual chemistry there , but i want more so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Welcome to the loveliest thread - I’ve not been here so long myself though.

Ah - it’s always the unavailable ones that float our boats - sadly, I tend to think he’s after breaking your defences.

It’s difficult but I’d hold the line for what you want - it would be worse down the line - though if you want a one off wild chemistry packed night well why not but it can be dangerous and I’m not feeling you do want that.

Saying on here is - don’t forget it’s you that is the prize.

Still absolute crickets on Hinge for me.

I had a flash back the other day to when my ex said he was so happy he never had to do the whole dating app bullshit again . And me thinking to myself ‘I wouldn’t be too sure about that mate’ 🙄

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New thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5540307-the-dating-thread-59-meeting-in-midsummer-with-passion-ablaze

@NosdacariadThanks for the new thread. @b0zza1thanks for the dating advice from Insta. My update from the weekend is I met up with Mr Nature. We met for a country walk midway as we live about 2 hours apart. He was very respectful, had thoughtfully bought a picnic and we had a lovely chat. Was quite romantic as we were standing on a bridge over a lovely river when he kissed me. We’re meeting again next weekend and the chats in between have been more frequent despite him saying he wasn’t a needy communicator. Fingers crossed. As for the other Irons, I purposely didn’t message them back if the conversation felt flat. And one of them is in Spain this week. For those of you despairing at the men online, I wanted to cheer you and and give some hope. Mr Nature is really nice and there is definable chemistry although he’s not my usual type.

Hey ☺️.
No I don’t want that .
I’ve done that, & the last time I did that I knew it would be the last time I did it , I was happy out with hook ups , & then a few years back on the morning I was leaving hotel a overwhelming feeling of loneliness suddenly came over me & I realised this is when casual ends for me 🤷🏻‍♀️.
I’m 💯 holding the line .
I don’t care how hot he is or what the chemistry is like .
At the end of the day he’s just one guy 🙌

Oh he definitely likes you! Seems like it’s been simmering away for ages too! I don’t think anyone has ever slid into my DMs before 🤪

😂

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to check in and say hello - work has stopped me engaging on MN that much, but I have been reading everything and to be honest it is very comforting to find so many brilliant women who are in a similar place, in so many ways! So many of my real life married friends say things like "it will happen when you least expect it", which is frankly, unhelpful.

Anyway, I have a date tomorrow, with a man I shall name Mr Squash. Chat is going well so far, he is a grown up who can communicate properly and appropriately. My concern is he may be a little too grown up - he is 15 years older than me.

I don't have an issue about that in and of itself, but seeing how age and illness affects my elderly parents (who are only 5 years apart in age, but it makes a difference) makes me wonder. In any event, I am trying not to overthink and just enjoy.

Agreed ☺️

Let us know how it goes with Mr Squash. I do think the age gap later on can be tricky. Having said that my friends parents have annexed some of their rooms (they are rich!) and made a carers flat in their family home, so they are ready for all their elderly care needs! My point is that it's good to remember your reservations, but also they can be mitigated with the right person.

We're moving over to this new thread btw

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5540307-the-dating-thread-59-meeting-in-midsummer-with-passion-ablaze

Hi Eesha
I,m new on here, been lurking for a while but after reading your post I felt compelled to reply.
Please don't ever think of your self as just a mum. You are doing one of the hardest jobs in the world. One where there is no instruction manual, no 2nd chance and everyday is a new chapter. That job gets full respect from me. You are doing a brilliant job.