The Dating Thread 58 - will you swoon in June? 🌸🌼🌸

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

• If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!

-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Thanks for the new thread!

@NosdacariadThanks for the thread!

Thanks for the new thread @Nosdacariad !

I'm sure things will go south with Mr Mullet so I'm not holding my breath 🤣

I understand the feeling but we don't have the evidence 😁

@Kaltenzahn over 'ere 😁

Thanks for the new thread, @Nosdacariad!

Lets hope I swoon in June!

Thanks for the new thread @Nosdacariad and thanks everyone for your kind words about my experience with The Creep. These things are sent to test us I guess and a good reminder to keep my wits about me in this process.

Still chatting to Mr Cyclist but as it’s so long until we can meet am a bit worried things might peter out by then. This weekend would have been perfect for a date with great weather and no kids - might do a bit of swiping now!

Glad the date with Mr Mullet went well @CleanShirt! If he’s already planning the next one that seems a good sign. 🤞🏻

🖐️ Mr situationship still ghosting/ reappearing. Mr Holiday homes moving forward in the race with another night of great chat but no date. :(

@CleanShirtfingers crossed. X

Following! Thanks for the new thread. Had a lecture from a friend saying I need to be less quiet/tired, and have better energy in order to attract a man. She says i haven't been the same since splitting with my ex. So I guess im asking how to boost myself up so im actually vaguely excited about the apps!

I’m quite disappointed it’s Holiday Homes not Holiday Horns lol.

It’s difficult when we start a connection just over message - and either nothing happens or no spark when meeting. Why I guess it’s generally advocated to meet quite early on / but obviously that can’t always happen either.

How long have you been chatting? Has he discussed other previous dates on OLD at all - just to know if he does do them or if he is he new to it?

I took a while to agree - but that’s as I wasn’t so bothered - and as the 2 I had were - after hints etc failed from them as o didn’t run with them - just dropped on me really quite suddenly and I just agreed randomly - it’s maybe easier as a woman (for once) there.

Good luck.

Nooo - don’t think this yet - Nosdacariad was happily proved wrong on her thinking with Mr Planes. If it does though it would be for someone even better - you are the orize!

Thank you for the new thread @Nosdacariad- love the swoon in June!

How is it with you and Mr Planes now you are boyfriend and girlfriend? Is it feeling any different? I’m sure you’re both swooning so that’s good 😊

I accidentally posted this on the old thread too - just be careful about Holiday Homes. In my experience, there are plenty of men on the apps who will happily chat and infinitum, and actually don't ever want to meet..... You deserve better than that!

(But it's best not to follow my advice - given how disastrous my love life is!)

Fingers crossed! 🤞🤞🤞

Hmmm is this a good friend?

I sort of get it a bit, but you shouldn't have to perform a role.

Mr Ships (bit redpilly and may not have been his nickname) told me not to be so nervous. I wasn't, I was just excited and happy and me. You can't win 😅

No change really, he has had two non ideal life events this week which he has shared and also dealt with like an adult which is a revelation to me.

Mr X would be gnashing his teeth, wailing, borrowing money...

It's good advice. Maybe give yourself a time limit for chatting?

Oh that’s so good - not the events of course - but when they adult I find it really swoon worthy - expect that says more about my exes than anything else lol.

I agree with this @Eesha- I’ve had friends like this - sometimes it’s not as helpful as (hopefully) they mean it.

You are who you are right now / I think when you’re ready, when you find a good guy, you’ll go on the date and you’ll spark as the you that you are anyway - don’t worry anyhow.

11th May. 😤. The evening chats are getting longer and longer. I’m away for a week. If nothing happens the following week I will have to pull the plug as away a week later. Which would result in 2 months of pen palling without having met. He may be promoted to Holiday Horns 😈 who knows?

@MsJinks @Nosdacariad she's actually a great friend though she herself spends hours on the apps, We were talking about a friend who is partnered up with a guy who is completely besotted, does all the childcare for her, devoted to the child (not his). Said friend isnt even divorced yet either after 6 years. My friend was saying to me that she probably has a better energy than me hence she attracted him. .

Can I join you? I was on here years ago where everyone was super supportive under a different name. Since then I've had another relationship that ended 2 years ago. He was a huge disaster! I want to put myself back out there but it's all eurghh out there.