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Husband messaged sex workers and I do not know what to do

55 replies

Shocked3 · 27/04/2026 09:01

Found out DH messaged a prostitute/ casual meet up for sex. I am devastated. I checked his phone last night, something wasn't sitting right with me and found the messages. I totally lost it. He contacted prostitutes four years when I was on holiday with our children and swore blind that it was only out of curiosity.

We are both mid 40s, three teens and been together 27 years.

He has wanted more intimacy but my health has not been great and he works very long hours so I wasn't feeling connected to him.

My heart is racing, I'm awake all night. There's nobody I can talk to in real life as I'm embarrassed.

OP posts:
I'llBuyThatForADollar · 30/04/2026 10:12

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I hope you are safe. Sending love and prayers. Hopefully the social worker will help you navigate through this. Please don’t let him weasel his way back into your life 🙏💐

PunishmentSnart · 01/05/2026 16:53

This is horrendous. All in front of the kids too.

Hope you get support 💐

S0j0urn4r · 06/05/2026 06:24

Hoping you're okay.

Iocanepowder · 06/05/2026 06:34

Hope you and the kids are ok op. Did the police arrest him?

ThePoetsWife · 06/05/2026 06:59

He punched you?! On top of cheating with sex workers??!

so sorry - you need to report him for assault and LTB

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