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Curious: How do people usually react to flirtatious dancing in social settings? Is it not appropriate?

48 replies

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 19:20

Hi, I (20s F), was at a friend's party yesterday and I danced with another woman (30s), first time met her and she was just another guest.

We started with social swing dancing then, turned into more playful dance. After some breaks and chat with her, we danced again this time, it was more closely, face-to-face, with some more playful touches, grinding, bit naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy, dirty dance together. it was all fun and we both laughed, enjoyed together.

This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.

Tbh, I felt I was bit aroused(?) and felt good chemistry with her but, nothing felt too sexual imo. Having looked back, I can't think of dance moves that may have raised alarms.

It makes me wondering, is this not normal playful flirting through dance? Has anyone else had similar experiences or noticed how others react in these situations? TIA!

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LadyMonicaBaddingham · 26/04/2026 19:23

They're only jealous...

Pugglywuggly · 26/04/2026 19:24

You say a friend's party, rather than a club at 2am. That might have been the issue rather than the dancing per se

TheCurious0range · 26/04/2026 19:25

Depends on the party, kids party or grandma's 80th probably not appropriate

Error404FucksNotFound · 26/04/2026 19:26

Probably the grinding. It's not very nice.

Shallotsaresmallonions · 26/04/2026 19:27

What kind of party?

Tbh I'd think anyone doing "sexy" dancing, outside of a club setting, was a bit of weirdo and an attention seeker.

Alwaysthesameoldstory · 26/04/2026 20:13

It sounds extremely embarrassing .

ItsJustMeMyself · 26/04/2026 20:14

Sounds cringe.

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 20:19

Pugglywuggly · 26/04/2026 19:24

You say a friend's party, rather than a club at 2am. That might have been the issue rather than the dancing per se

Well. it was friend's party at the bar. We are all adults in 20s.

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Sequentino · 26/04/2026 20:20

TheCurious0range · 26/04/2026 19:25

Depends on the party, kids party or grandma's 80th probably not appropriate

@TheCurious0range Friend's birthday party. Most of our friends are in 20s. we are all adults

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Backawayfromthesausage · 26/04/2026 20:21

I think maybe the grinding and whatever you were doing you class as “ dirty” maybe a bit much.

Overtheatlantic · 26/04/2026 20:26

You might have thought it was fun and sexy but others might have thought you should get a room and stop embarrassing yourself. Just different ways of experiencing the situation.

ProudAmberTurtle · 26/04/2026 20:26

There seems to be a lot of posts on Mumsnet in the last few days by 'women' who have done something slightly sexual with another woman and want others to share their similar experiences.

I imagine them all to be blokes typing with one hand.

Newsenmum · 26/04/2026 20:29

This is hilarious!

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:04

ProudAmberTurtle · 26/04/2026 20:26

There seems to be a lot of posts on Mumsnet in the last few days by 'women' who have done something slightly sexual with another woman and want others to share their similar experiences.

I imagine them all to be blokes typing with one hand.

@ProudAmberTurtle not interested in wasting my time to argue with you. just mind your own business :)

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Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:07

Error404FucksNotFound · 26/04/2026 19:26

Probably the grinding. It's not very nice.

hmmm. ok.
Many female friends grind each other and twerk for fun when they dance together.

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Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:08

Backawayfromthesausage · 26/04/2026 20:21

I think maybe the grinding and whatever you were doing you class as “ dirty” maybe a bit much.

maybe..

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DeadBug · 26/04/2026 21:08
Best Film Movie GIF

Flirtatious dancing like this?

catipuss · 26/04/2026 21:08

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 19:20

Hi, I (20s F), was at a friend's party yesterday and I danced with another woman (30s), first time met her and she was just another guest.

We started with social swing dancing then, turned into more playful dance. After some breaks and chat with her, we danced again this time, it was more closely, face-to-face, with some more playful touches, grinding, bit naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy, dirty dance together. it was all fun and we both laughed, enjoyed together.

This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.

Tbh, I felt I was bit aroused(?) and felt good chemistry with her but, nothing felt too sexual imo. Having looked back, I can't think of dance moves that may have raised alarms.

It makes me wondering, is this not normal playful flirting through dance? Has anyone else had similar experiences or noticed how others react in these situations? TIA!

Are you married or in a relationship if so not a good look, if not who cares.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 26/04/2026 21:10

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:07

hmmm. ok.
Many female friends grind each other and twerk for fun when they dance together.

do they?

ProudAmberTurtle · 26/04/2026 21:19

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:07

hmmm. ok.
Many female friends grind each other and twerk for fun when they dance together.

You said you'd just met her?

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:50

catipuss · 26/04/2026 21:08

Are you married or in a relationship if so not a good look, if not who cares.

@catipuss single.

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Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:51

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 26/04/2026 21:10

do they?

@Notmycircusnotmyotter I can't generalise this but, at least in my friends circles, yes, we do.

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bookwormcrazy · 26/04/2026 21:54

Your 20! Having fun! I had my best nights with a great dance partner that we just jelled and had amazing chemistry dancing! This is when you’re meant to be having fun and letting loose. I miss those days so enjoy it and ignore the jealousy.

Everlil · 26/04/2026 21:59

What are you concerned about? You danced and had fun by the sounds of it. Others might have found it a bit cringey, but it doesn’t really affect them does it? We’ve all seen embarrassing dancing when out - especially dads dancing at weddings! I don’t think people really care so I wouldn’t worry about it.

Backawayfromthesausage · 26/04/2026 22:02

Sequentino · 26/04/2026 21:07

hmmm. ok.
Many female friends grind each other and twerk for fun when they dance together.

Yet your female friends are taking issue,

ok then,