Curious: How do people usually react to flirtatious dancing in social settings? Is it not appropriate?

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Hi, I (20s F), was at a friend's party yesterday and I danced with another woman (30s), first time met her and she was just another guest.

We started with social swing dancing then, turned into more playful dance. After some breaks and chat with her, we danced again this time, it was more closely, face-to-face, with some more playful touches, grinding, bit naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy, dirty dance together. it was all fun and we both laughed, enjoyed together.

This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.

Tbh, I felt I was bit aroused(?) and felt good chemistry with her but, nothing felt too sexual imo. Having looked back, I can't think of dance moves that may have raised alarms.

It makes me wondering, is this not normal playful flirting through dance? Has anyone else had similar experiences or noticed how others react in these situations? TIA!

Obviously not the friends you were out with, or they wouldn’t all be telling you that you embarrassed yourself.

By, 20s, F, do you mean you're female? Or is your name Frank, or Fred or similar.

Your post reads VERY male.

Sure they do.

People don’t want to see you “grinding” and being “dirty.” Clearly it was more OTT than you realise as people have contacted you about it.

Cringe! 😬

Well, it's certainly not classy now is it?

You dont have to care what people think but at least now you know what impression they have of you.

@Everlil Thanks for the comforting comments. I was concerned that it was my first time hearing this so, I just wanted to get some opinions. I get some trolls in the comments but, appreciate your supportive comments.

@LadyMonicaBaddingham That is good positive thing to take this.

@bookwormcrazy Awww!! Top comment. Exactly I am having the same thought. Thanks for the comment! :)

I mean - I’m not a fan of grinding or twerking - but you say it’s usual in your social circle so crack on.

A bit main character behaviour for someone’s birthday. Taking attention away from them isn’t nice so maybe you should apologise.

Oh yes, because anything other than hetero doesn’t exist ergo it must be a man.

Would not bother me in the slightest. It’s just dancing.
But then I used to live in a pagan town and go to the weekly drum circle.

Did they say what specifically bothered them about it? Is it because it went beyond playful (sounds typical for your group) into something more flirtatious and that made them uncomfortable?

Were other people dancing?

You say it’s normal in your friend circle, but also that they are complaining about it. If it really was usual within your group they’d be fine about it surely?

I can see you’re a new poster / commenter so welcome to Mumsnet.

Heads-up that often there are new Mumsnetters whose first post contains what could be considered titillating content for blokes, but as the years go by, if they carry on interacting with the site and comment on or post threads on more ordinary topics, people soon realise they’re genuine.

Hope you get helpful responses, OP.

Depends. At the club? Fine so long as it’s dark. On a Brazilian street in Carnival? Fine. At someone’s party grinding on someone you’ve just met? It’s not a good look…

Im guessing you’re not British because a Brit would cringe even saying the words ‘naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy dance’ and ‘public’ together. Let alone admit you were aroused in front of everyone.

The issue is if it crossed from dancing into essentially rutting on each other.

Definitely. After you've been on here for years they stick like out like a sore thumb...or something.

‘This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.’

Well you’ve answered your own question… clearly it isn’t deemed normal or acceptable.

This post is straight from Reddit!

so your friends are fine with but your friends are also complaining about it? Which is it?

This reads very male and gross

aroused 🤢

If they didn't like your dancing then I'm sure they'll get over it.
I don't think you have done anything wrong. Sounds fun.

Sounds like people need to mind their own business. They’re probably just jealous.