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Curious: How do people usually react to flirtatious dancing in social settings? Is it not appropriate?

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Sequentino · Yesterday 19:20

Hi, I (20s F), was at a friend's party yesterday and I danced with another woman (30s), first time met her and she was just another guest.

We started with social swing dancing then, turned into more playful dance. After some breaks and chat with her, we danced again this time, it was more closely, face-to-face, with some more playful touches, grinding, bit naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy, dirty dance together. it was all fun and we both laughed, enjoyed together.

This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.

Tbh, I felt I was bit aroused(?) and felt good chemistry with her but, nothing felt too sexual imo. Having looked back, I can't think of dance moves that may have raised alarms.

It makes me wondering, is this not normal playful flirting through dance? Has anyone else had similar experiences or noticed how others react in these situations? TIA!

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Tigerbalmshark · Yesterday 22:02

Sequentino · Yesterday 21:51

@Notmycircusnotmyotter I can't generalise this but, at least in my friends circles, yes, we do.

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Obviously not the friends you were out with, or they wouldn’t all be telling you that you embarrassed yourself.

TheSpottedZebra · Yesterday 22:07

Sequentino · Yesterday 19:20

Hi, I (20s F), was at a friend's party yesterday and I danced with another woman (30s), first time met her and she was just another guest.

We started with social swing dancing then, turned into more playful dance. After some breaks and chat with her, we danced again this time, it was more closely, face-to-face, with some more playful touches, grinding, bit naughty, dirty, flirty, sexy, dirty dance together. it was all fun and we both laughed, enjoyed together.

This morning, I have been told by some friends that some people were not happy and annoyed with the dance moves we have pulled together.

Tbh, I felt I was bit aroused(?) and felt good chemistry with her but, nothing felt too sexual imo. Having looked back, I can't think of dance moves that may have raised alarms.

It makes me wondering, is this not normal playful flirting through dance? Has anyone else had similar experiences or noticed how others react in these situations? TIA!

By, 20s, F, do you mean you're female? Or is your name Frank, or Fred or similar.

Your post reads VERY male.

TerracottaBowl · Yesterday 22:08

Sequentino · Yesterday 21:07

hmmm. ok.
Many female friends grind each other and twerk for fun when they dance together.

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Sure they do.

TheBafflingIsGenerallyComplete · Yesterday 22:10

People don’t want to see you “grinding” and being “dirty.” Clearly it was more OTT than you realise as people have contacted you about it.

CatRestaurant · Yesterday 22:17

Cringe! 😬

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 22:19

Well, it's certainly not classy now is it?

You dont have to care what people think but at least now you know what impression they have of you.

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Sequentino · Yesterday 22:33

Everlil · Yesterday 21:59

What are you concerned about? You danced and had fun by the sounds of it. Others might have found it a bit cringey, but it doesn’t really affect them does it? We’ve all seen embarrassing dancing when out - especially dads dancing at weddings! I don’t think people really care so I wouldn’t worry about it.

@Everlil Thanks for the comforting comments. I was concerned that it was my first time hearing this so, I just wanted to get some opinions. I get some trolls in the comments but, appreciate your supportive comments.

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Sequentino · Yesterday 22:35

LadyMonicaBaddingham · Yesterday 19:23

They're only jealous...

@LadyMonicaBaddingham That is good positive thing to take this.

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Sequentino · Yesterday 22:37

bookwormcrazy · Yesterday 21:54

Your 20! Having fun! I had my best nights with a great dance partner that we just jelled and had amazing chemistry dancing! This is when you’re meant to be having fun and letting loose. I miss those days so enjoy it and ignore the jealousy.

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@bookwormcrazy Awww!! Top comment. Exactly I am having the same thought. Thanks for the comment! :)

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patooties · Yesterday 22:39

I mean - I’m not a fan of grinding or twerking - but you say it’s usual in your social circle so crack on.

Whoops75 · Yesterday 23:04

A bit main character behaviour for someone’s birthday. Taking attention away from them isn’t nice so maybe you should apologise.

LoremIpsumCici · Yesterday 23:06

ProudAmberTurtle · Yesterday 20:26

There seems to be a lot of posts on Mumsnet in the last few days by 'women' who have done something slightly sexual with another woman and want others to share their similar experiences.

I imagine them all to be blokes typing with one hand.

Oh yes, because anything other than hetero doesn’t exist ergo it must be a man.

LoremIpsumCici · Yesterday 23:08

Would not bother me in the slightest. It’s just dancing.
But then I used to live in a pagan town and go to the weekly drum circle.

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