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Strange chance meeting with friend, what to think?

211 replies

Genuinelyataloss · 23/04/2026 10:18

Would be keen to hear MN views on something strange that happened with a friend two weeks ago that I keep turning over in my mind.

We'd just been to a gig with my husband and three kids and were walking home, when we caught up, on a fairly busy stretch of London pavement, with a good friend of ours, who was walking in the same direction as us. We all called out to him, and as he turned around, it became apparent only in that moment that he was in fact with a woman, who was not his wife and whom we'd never seen before. He sort of acknowledged my husband but completely blanked the other four, introduced him to the woman and then swerved off and crossed the road with her.

On the face of it, a bit of a nothing burger, right? But if it really was nothing, why not stay and chat?

He's not been in touch to offer an explanation or acknowledge the weirdness, which I guess is entirely to be expected.

I'm due to see them both tomorrow, and I just feel somehow funny. Would welcome your thoughts!

OP posts:
Freddiesfortune · 24/04/2026 17:40

Honestly if someone tried to “call out” my husband in that way (and I don’t like him and wish he’d have a bloody affair) I’d think they were uppity self-righteous twats. I’d hope they could speak to me directly and privately so it isn’t just looking for drama and attention and getting to be a front-seat in someone’s life imploding.

blackpooolrock · 24/04/2026 17:40

BuiltToDrift · 24/04/2026 17:34

The original comment was from me. I suggested saying "nice to bump into you last night". Why would you not say that to someone you bumped into the night before? If nothing is going on, it means nothing at all. If something is going on, it's a low drama way of making it clear you won't keep secrets by omission.

What secret do you think you're keeping? Why is two people walking along the road together suspicious? Just because you don't know the other person you are suspicious? Shit stirring... that's all you're doing. No wonder people don't trust some woman...

ReyRey12 · 24/04/2026 17:51

I ran into two friends last week and the first this we said to each other when we saw eachother yesterday was hoe funny it was to run into each other at this random place. Mentioning is not shit stirring, it is quite natural to mention it.

Neveragainplease · 24/04/2026 18:43

godmum56 · 23/04/2026 22:15

amazed at the number of people saying stay out of it. Wouldn't you want to know if your partner was cheating?

For sure I would. If I found out that some people had known my ex was cheating in the years leading up to when I actually discovered he was I would not be in the slightest bit happy, and I would not want to continue the friendship at all

watchingthishtread · 24/04/2026 19:31

I'm not sure it's any of your business who the woman was tbh. I certainly wouldn't confront him.

thestudio · 24/04/2026 19:44

Hayfever25 · 23/04/2026 18:33

Do you always have main character syndrome, OP?

Wha?

Literally everyone asking advice on MN would have MCS if you look at it like that.

Although none of us do, because we're not getting dopamine hits from using internet talking points that were hot in 2023.

moderate · Yesterday 00:44

rwalker · 24/04/2026 17:09

I’m really confused what your on about

my point was if your out with a couple then randomly throw in the conversation that you saw the DH with another woman

the obvious conclusion would be you’ve said it to insinuate he was up to something

why would you bring up seeing them when you spoke to them

person 1 I saw you yesterday
person 2 I know I spoke to you

the whole purpose of making the comment would be to tell the wife her husband was with another woman

as I said shit stirring

Apparently in your world it’s not possible for someone to say it was nice to see you without this being some kind of Machiavellian plot.

I live in a different world to you.

rwalker · Yesterday 06:23

moderate · Yesterday 00:44

Apparently in your world it’s not possible for someone to say it was nice to see you without this being some kind of Machiavellian plot.

I live in a different world to you.

Yes mine and quite a lot of other people on here if you read the replies

the only plot here is to mention the meeting to alert the wife he was with a woman . Which is fine if that what you want to do, just own it instead of trying to to make out it’s just light conversation

somburd · Yesterday 10:02

So what happened?

moderate · Yesterday 10:24

rwalker · Yesterday 06:23

Yes mine and quite a lot of other people on here if you read the replies

the only plot here is to mention the meeting to alert the wife he was with a woman . Which is fine if that what you want to do, just own it instead of trying to to make out it’s just light conversation

Edited

You and those people are completely missing the point. Your “owning it” denies the wife any chance to save face.

Whattodo1610 · Yesterday 16:58

How did it go OP?

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