Am I actually expected to check in on my ex every so often just to make sure he’s still alive?
For context, my ex has had no contact with our children by his own choice. It’s been three years since he last saw them. The only thing he’s done in that time is send a birthday message each year to me to pass on to them. However, my son’s birthday was a couple of weeks and we heard nothing.
I mentioned it to a few people and was surprised when they suggested I should reach out to him to check he’s okay/alive. That feels odd to me?
Our last interaction wasn’t great, he didn’t reply to my last email, and I’m fairly sure he blocked my number. So to me, it seems far more likely he’s chosen to stop contact altogether, rather than anything serious having happened.
I have no reason to think something’s wrong, and he’s made no effort to stay involved. The children don’t ask about him and don’t want to see him. He clearly isn’t concerned about whether they are okay.
So genuinely is it my responsibility to check on him? Do other parents actually do this? Or am I right to think that would that come across as strange, given the circumstances?