I’m curious about this! In my last relationship, I didn’t fancy him at first. I remember getting to know him and one night, him making me laugh my head off over something silly and all of a sudden, the stomach flips were there. The relationship lasted about 4 years (long story) but I definitely didn’t physically fancy him at first.
I’m in the same situation again (I think) with someone else. This time, ‘on paper’, if I could write a list, he’s everything I’d be looking for but there isn’t any physical chemistry. He makes me laugh, we have the same dark sense of humour and if I’m going to see him, I’m always aware that I want to look nice. I couldn’t say that I actually ‘fancied’ him though. In the past, I’ve met men where it’s been an instant physical spark but then inevitably, it fizzles out once we get to know each other.
Just wondering if there’s others who are like that? Physical attraction is something that grows over time? Or for you, was it an instant chemistry?