Sex - have you ever had a moment where your partner

[electra]

...suddenly does something that you perceive strange and you would prefer not to do?? And it's a kind of OMG moment!

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No- but if it happened I'd tell him!

The mind boggles- tell us more!

Yep - not DH but one a long time ago slapped me really hard across the arse and then spat freezing water at me!

Well it's just I remember some very funny stories that people have told on here - but they are all in chat so they disappear!

Anyway, I've been seeing a guy who likes to try and put his fingers in my bum and I always try to divert him - am I odd in not liking bum sex etc?

Tell him to quit it lest he wakes up the hamster you are keeping up there

No not odd at all- I was "offered " that many years ago, on the basis I might enjoy it, but I trusted my instinct and said no.

He didn't mind and that was the end of that!

Tell him that it is an exit and not an entrance!!

twinkie where did he get the freezing cold water? was it in a cup and he swished it around then spat it out?

just tell him you arent into it! most women probably arent!

Electra - Tell him in easy words. NO! Otherwise he probably won't stop trying to persuade you it's good.

I don't get bum sex either. I mean that's where you poo from!

You could always try the same with him and see f that puts a stop to it- course he might enjoy it.

I am the only one of my friends who doesn't fancy it. It seems a bit unhygienic - you know especially if it goes back in the other hole afterwards. Sorry tmi!

I think sometimes people do to others what they want done to them. so yeah he might want something up his bum!

Not DH but the worst thing I had was the guy farted mid coitus! YUK it rumbled right through and stank!! that was an OMG moment!!!

Yep - it was by the side of the bed - he was lovely a big hunky half NZ half Western Samoan internatioal rugby player with a huge tidger and a bidy to die for but shit it hurt when he hit me and I am just not into being spat at!

If I were you electra I would let hi stick his fingers up there and as soon as he takes them out get out the Hygeine Gel and tell him he has to clean them before he touches anything else and be really weird about it and make sure he rubs it all round his nails whilst you are starring at him - he then loses erection and decides not to bother with the bum fingers bit next time!

Just don't go there! seriously, you can get nasty infections- vagina and bladder - if he goes in both exits/entrances. Same even if it's just fingers.

Just talk to him- he needs to understand what you want and don't want.

I just knew this would be bumsex.

I think switching lanes isn't recommended without going through a carwash, so to speak.

Tell him you don't like it but would be happy to oblige him with a strap on and some gay porn.

well on the next session I would pull out a marrow and say your turn!! LOL

I apparently gave DH one of these moments when I leapt off him mid-shag and vomited in a waste paper basket (found out I was pregnant about an hour later!)

Crikey WMMC - it's like that with pregnancy sickness isn't it - really sudden iirc.

Well I have tried telling him but his english isn't very good. Yes agree about maybe wanting it done to him.

draw him a diagram then

A diagram

lol

Put black gaffer tape in an X shape over your buttocks.

Tell him NO BUMMY BUMMY.

Of course for those of you in Northampton, different advice applies

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