He is paying her mortgage and paying for holidays

[Linda409]

When I met my partner he was separated. He is still separated. We have been together for a year. His wife is still living in the marital home. He is paying the mortgage. He said he would put the house on the market in December. Now he says June. He says he feels bad for leaving her so he doesn’t want to hurt her any more. I have seen her pics on Facebook. So far this year she has been to Dubai and Italy. She only has a part time, pin money job. Am I right to suspect that he is funding these trips. She has not met anyone new - girly holidays she says.

If a man is married by default he is legally tied to someone else. If Op wanted someone without those ties and obligations she shouldn’t have began a relationship with a married man. Especially one who still had major shared assets with his wife.

It’s not about whether it’s understandable that this bothers her. We are just saying that she knew the deal when she walked into this.

To be clear, I would be more than upset! But this is exactly why I wouldn’t go near a married man.