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Escort site - uk punting / adult work

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Newchapter25 · 04/03/2025 07:38

Has anyone had any dealings with this site, uk punting? I found out my husband has been active on this site and adult workfor many years. It got to the point he was going on it just like an extra social media check that you’d do daily. It is an escort site. He has made regular comments on people’s posts and left a handful of “reviews” in which he graphically describes his meetings with them…. I also have seen that he rang his regular on there recently from his own phone. He swears blind that he never met any of these and it was all a fantasy. He is very ashamed and remorseful. He had apps where he could text etc from secret numbers, he claims this is because it was all a big fantasy and addiction and if he used his own number all the time it would get him blacklisted as he used to book then cancel….. He describes things in his reviews including locations of meets in great detail and says he simply used previous reviews to copy to get these details… the acts described, if true have put my family in danger (we have kids) as we’re not protected and not though the traditional route shall we say…., I have sent off an STD test and needless to say he isn’t living here since I found all of this out! He wants to go through therapy for his own stuff but also couples to see if our marriage can be recovered. Has anyone got any experience of anything like this happening to them? I can’t find a single other example of it anywhere! My gut is screaming run for the hills,, my heart is screaming that I love him. There are other issues within our marriage (his behaviour around mood swings has not been ok, name calling, whole house atmospheres etc but that’s a story for another day, I just can’t get my head around this escort thing). Any personal experience would be massively appreciated! (Also sorry to anyone who has been through this as it hurts so so bad)!

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StrawberryDream24 · 20/03/2025 07:39

If I've picked you up right, you also mention him receiving anal sex (?)

So he's using transexual prostitutes and is having anal sex with them, with himself as the recipient.

That's way riskier than the sex acts that a punter using a female prostitute would be doing.

If doing the reverse (receiving anal sex) the transexual prostitute might be on "prep" to prevent hiv infection (of themselves) . I don't know if it prevents hiv infection in the other direction (of the person they're penetrating). Your h is presumably not on "Prep" so it's a big risk - receiving anal sex & only relying on condoms that might break

I would get your screening done, as you are doing, and never touch him with a barge pole again.

Newchapter25 · 27/03/2025 11:56

Thank you for the replies, sorry I have only just seen the more recent ones. He was claiming to be giving Anal to women so not receiving.

he is still swearing by not seeing anyone physically, it doesn’t add up to me at all, especially as one particular worker he was in regular phone contact with… I have since read that on these review sites, you get more access to read more reviews etc when you contribute to the site so not sure if there’s something in that or not?

I have been tested and thankfully all negative. We are separated but He is trying to get all of the counselling etc to change etc etc etc. I can’t even make eye contact at the moment though and don’t trust him one bit so as much as I haven’t written it off for in the future after a lot of work, there’s no way we could go back any time soon, if ever. There’s an element of respecting myself but also the kids come first and as much as my family unit is broken and that upsets me a lot, they’re so much happier day to day without the atmosphere at home. Just taking one day at a time for now and trying to process it all. Sorry to read that others have been through the same / similar, it really sucks! (Pun not intended there 🤦‍♀️😂)

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ItsAllLogic · 03/07/2025 08:04

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BMW6 · 03/07/2025 11:57

I have never read such misogynistic bollocks in all my life ItsAllLogic.

Go back to the century you've crawled out of.

heroinechic · 03/07/2025 14:13

@ItsAllLogic alright Mr Punting UK 👍🏻 I hope all the women that pretend to enjoy your pecker for money aren’t too traumatised!

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heroinechic · 03/07/2025 14:28

@ItsAllLogic “when you provide no value” - how exactly do women provide value in your view?

p.s I’m perfectly happy in my marriage, I don’t have to pay members of the opposite sex to touch me. That seems pretty gloomy and lonely to me!

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Newchapter25 · 04/03/2025 07:38

Has anyone had any dealings with this site, uk punting? I found out my husband has been active on this site and adult workfor many years. It got to the point he was going on it just like an extra social media check that you’d do daily. It is an escort site. He has made regular comments on people’s posts and left a handful of “reviews” in which he graphically describes his meetings with them…. I also have seen that he rang his regular on there recently from his own phone. He swears blind that he never met any of these and it was all a fantasy. He is very ashamed and remorseful. He had apps where he could text etc from secret numbers, he claims this is because it was all a big fantasy and addiction and if he used his own number all the time it would get him blacklisted as he used to book then cancel….. He describes things in his reviews including locations of meets in great detail and says he simply used previous reviews to copy to get these details… the acts described, if true have put my family in danger (we have kids) as we’re not protected and not though the traditional route shall we say…., I have sent off an STD test and needless to say he isn’t living here since I found all of this out! He wants to go through therapy for his own stuff but also couples to see if our marriage can be recovered. Has anyone got any experience of anything like this happening to them? I can’t find a single other example of it anywhere! My gut is screaming run for the hills,, my heart is screaming that I love him. There are other issues within our marriage (his behaviour around mood swings has not been ok, name calling, whole house atmospheres etc but that’s a story for another day, I just can’t get my head around this escort thing). Any personal experience would be massively appreciated! (Also sorry to anyone who has been through this as it hurts so so bad)!

It has happened to me, I found out my partner booking an appointment with this prosttt** for B2B massage and I was reading the reviews and seeing how disgusting it is for a man to pay to cheat on us with this. He said at the end he did not go. We have a 7 m/o baby and when I found out she was 3, I am finding really difficult to forget this disgusting thing, putting me at risk. I am really sorry for your situation too because it looks like he has been going to those places and these all excuses. If I were you and had good position with kids, financially etc I would just leave immediately.

OldScribbler · 19/08/2025 16:56

The critical issue, if I may say so, is whether your sex life at home was successful. I hasten to add that I'm unbiased, having been married three times. and now both happy and too old to try again.

heroinechic · 19/08/2025 18:21

OldScribbler · 19/08/2025 16:56

The critical issue, if I may say so, is whether your sex life at home was successful. I hasten to add that I'm unbiased, having been married three times. and now both happy and too old to try again.

Their sex life is the critical issue?

Not the: cheating, lying, degradation of women, verbal & emotional abuse of his wife (for which she was in contact with women’s aid for a year!) or the fact that there are children wrapped up in this?

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