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Me and my boyfriend look strange together

46 replies

Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 17:53

He's 6 foot 4
I'm 5 foot 2

He is covered in tattoos including his face with a Mohican

I'm more classic dresser

He's skinny and pale and ginger

I'm dark and curvy

I'm proud to be seen with him

But everyone looks surprised

It's getting to me

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WrylyAmused · 20/01/2025 21:43

Opinions are like assholes - everyone has one, and you don't need to listen to them.

If you're proud to be seen with him, no-one else's opinion matters.

Maybe try imagining how dull and small their lives must be that they're surprised to see a couple that don't look similar, and feel sorry for them instead....

Jennyathemall · 20/01/2025 21:45

Get a mohican and tattoos.
Grow.

shweetshurprise · 20/01/2025 21:55

Get over it or end it because the looks will never stop sadly.

PeopleLikeColdplay · 20/01/2025 21:58

I mean this kindly - stop worrying about what other people think. It's incredibly relaxing to stop caring.

Elizo · 20/01/2025 21:59

You sound great! Who wants to be boring

BabaYagasLittleSister · 20/01/2025 22:07

I think it would be more weird if you looked the same?

Iloveyoubut · 20/01/2025 22:10

Honestly I truly don't think people care as much as you think they do.

FoxInTheForest · 20/01/2025 22:13

Are you sure they're looking because of you being a couple? I'd assume he probably gets double looks alone too, being that height with facial tattoos and a mohawk will naturally attract a bit of attention.

Coconutter24 · 20/01/2025 22:13

It probably has nothing to do with you or how you look together

He is covered in tattoos including his face with a Mohican

that is probably why, he’s got facial tattoos and a Mohican, most people will look. Not necessarily in a bad way but because it’s different

Hoppinggreen · 20/01/2025 22:14

He is very tall with facial tatoos and a Mohawk, people are going to look at him

HairyLairyQuiteContrary · 20/01/2025 22:17

It sounds as if he cuts a very striking figure op. Many of the people staring probably don't even notice you, let alone make judgements on you as a couple. But if they do, let them.

Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 23:15

WrylyAmused · 20/01/2025 21:43

Opinions are like assholes - everyone has one, and you don't need to listen to them.

If you're proud to be seen with him, no-one else's opinion matters.

Maybe try imagining how dull and small their lives must be that they're surprised to see a couple that don't look similar, and feel sorry for them instead....

Thank you!!!

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Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 23:17

Coconutter24 · 20/01/2025 22:13

It probably has nothing to do with you or how you look together

He is covered in tattoos including his face with a Mohican

that is probably why, he’s got facial tattoos and a Mohican, most people will look. Not necessarily in a bad way but because it’s different

Yes. Thank you! He often warns me we shouldn't go certain places. To me he is sooooo beautiful.

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Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 23:19

FoxInTheForest · 20/01/2025 22:13

Are you sure they're looking because of you being a couple? I'd assume he probably gets double looks alone too, being that height with facial tattoos and a mohawk will naturally attract a bit of attention.

This is what everyone is saying. This makes sense!!!

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Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 23:20

Elizo · 20/01/2025 21:59

You sound great! Who wants to be boring

I'm so happy. Thank you x

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H112 · 21/01/2025 03:08

You probably look like dad and daughter but who cares

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/01/2025 03:56

Why would people think they’re dad and daughter?

shweetshurprise · 21/01/2025 13:08

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/01/2025 03:56

Why would people think they’re dad and daughter?

I think big height difference from behind it looks like a dad with his daughter.

Beautifulbouquet · 21/01/2025 15:31

He's 12 years younger than me with totally different couring so I don't think we look like a dad and daughter at all.

I think people are right that folks aren't staring at US they are staring at him. He has a ton of piercings as well as the tattoos.

I guess I'll get used to it and I love how he looks.

Occasionally I feel we don't match aesthetically and so sometimes I feel like people think we are a strange couple.

But neither of us has any intention of changing how we look so I guess I'll just not have to care.

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oakleaffy · 21/01/2025 15:42

@Beautifulbouquet It’s not like you are Carriage horses where being matched for height, coat colour and pace matters- Who gives a toss what others think! 😉

oakleaffy · 21/01/2025 15:44

@Beautifulbouquet Am guessing you are living outside of London too? People tend to stare more at less mainstream styles in smaller cities and villages.

Beautifulbouquet · 21/01/2025 15:51

oakleaffy · 21/01/2025 15:44

@Beautifulbouquet Am guessing you are living outside of London too? People tend to stare more at less mainstream styles in smaller cities and villages.

Yes! Small city. It's a good point...we should have a weekend break in Berlin or London if the stares get too much!

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Beautifulbouquet · 21/01/2025 15:53

I think as well that people assume things about him. Actually he's a pacifist vegan and very gentle type...though people react like he is going to start a fight.

Have a gay friend like this too...he's also ginger and six foot four and big too...gets such a lot of aggro but he's the gentlest soul.

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Alabas · 21/01/2025 15:55

Maybe it’s the age gap too? People always seem very surprised when a woman is older but don’t bat an eyelid when it’s the other way around.

Whoknew24 · 21/01/2025 15:58

Beautifulbouquet · 20/01/2025 17:53

He's 6 foot 4
I'm 5 foot 2

He is covered in tattoos including his face with a Mohican

I'm more classic dresser

He's skinny and pale and ginger

I'm dark and curvy

I'm proud to be seen with him

But everyone looks surprised

It's getting to me

My husband niece is in sane situation! And more or less same height as you both. It’s been 10 years and everyone still points it out how odd they look etc.

However just pay no attention it does the people a back quite a bit due to sheer difference in height that’s all. Just stay in your bubble and accept people will always stare as it’s a little out the norm. But if you guys are happy what other people think isn’t worth a second thought.

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