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Silver foxes / Sugar daddy

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mnmnddddd · 28/10/2024 07:06

Was listening to WE Woman's Hour and two contributors said that, when they were younger, they'd dated significantly older men and attributed some the attraction to "power".
Just wondering if this is more common than I've seen. I can see why older men would want to date younger women, but if you've dated older men, why? Money, status, maturity, power, sexual expertise?

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Aussiegirl123456 · 28/10/2024 20:41

ballybooboo · 28/10/2024 20:06

at the idea these guys were powerful (especially the dentist!) isn't it just they have their shit together, dress well, have confidence & money compared to the lads your age when you are that old?

I'm in the camp on not wanting to date my dad and I quite liked getting into scrapes and having fun with the guys my age, the whole being 'treated like a lady/grown up' has never appealed to me.

Once I started earning decent(ish) money older men were even less appealing

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Oh well, let’s find you a medal.

CharlieDickens · 28/10/2024 21:03

In my 20s I had one partner the one that stood out. He was 16 years older than me. He was a lot of fun, intelligent and enjoyed the same things as me. We had 14 good months together before I realised I wanted to have kids and get married. The breakup was one of the worst.

He wasn't a meal ticket or a substitute father. He was someone that I had a genuine connection with and I learnt what a good relationship should be like and how to live with someone. I actually believe if it hadn't have been for him I wouldn't have met my ex-husband and had two amazing boys.

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