So what answer was he looking for?!

[exploreandconnectbaby]

Bloke on OLD. Been chatting online for a couple of weeks. Seemed to be going okay. He said he is looking for an emotional and spiritual connection and will not be hurrying to get into bed. Today he asked me what my ideal date would be. I chose drinks and chat in a decent pub. He replied ' And, sorry to be forward, but afterwards slow caressing and kissing..?'

Now I found this a weird question, if I am honest. Its clear I am looking for normal relationship that includes sex as part of that relationship, so yes, touching and kissing is part of a normal sexual relationship, so why even ask?

So I replied to say I was not quite sure what he was asking, and yes if we met and got on, I wanted a sexual relationship, as he knew, so was he trying to move onto sexting as I only do that once I am in a sexual relationship?

And he replied to say he didn't want to sext but was just exploring to see if we have a connection but its clear we don't so goodbye!!

So Dear Reader, knock yourself out - what response was this fragile male ego looking for?

I literally got the ick just reading that. If someone I hadn't even met sent me that, I wouldn't reply, I honestly think I'd just block. But then, I'd block anyone who told me they were looking for a "spiritual" connection in the first place.

Well clearly he was looking for a sexting opportunity. Twat.

Also who actually says "slow caressing"? 🤢

Who's got time for this?
Sounds like a very odd job interview.

I am a man, and I have no idea what his agenda was.

You've avoided a dickhead I think. Lucky not to have wasted too much time / effort.

Next.

I think his ‘spiritual connection’ was twat-speak for A Shag, so you dodged a bullet there!

I've met twats like this in yoga practice / teacher training. Fake spiritual bollocks. In real life they're easier to spot quickly as creeps.

I'd have blocked immediately I got that 'caressing' message 🤮

'And, sorry to be forward, but afterwards slow caressing and kissing..?'

Ugh, I shuddered at him saying that!

Have you heard of Marian Keyes' feathery strokers?

Urgh, sounds like you dodged a bullet.

This made me laugh! Exactly that! Its a job I'm glad I never got!

No, I have not!

Oh my life, how can men not realise how gross they sound?! Did he think that was seductive?! Jesus wept.

He's looking for a shag

I think this is true too. I go to quite a lot of ' spiritual dance' things as I like dancing but am too old for nightclubs.. I saw a short clip on facebook on the type of people you meet at festivals and I recognised ALL of them, especially the 'spiritual fuck' guys!

"Slow caressing"? 🤮🤮🤮🤮

I think he must of. Perhaps I was to supposed to say ' ooh baby, please do - whisper your mantras into my ear as you caress my yoni, ooh baby.'

Sounds repulsive. Spiritual connection and caressing 🤢

😱🤣🤮

Caressing bleeeeurgh 🤢🤢

He was looking for sex - just pretending he wasn’t.

slow caressing and kissing…
Urgh my fanny just clamped shut and was sealed with gorilla glue

But why pretend? Why all the ' I won't be rushing you to bed, lady, so bide your time' bollocks and then this?!

Weirdo!

This.

Dickhead.

The word caressing 🤢

AS SOON as a man says or texts anything even vaguely sexual to me I'm off - and he better be too! (Obviously I'm not including any man I'm having a "close" relationship with!)
Btw how good to hear the word 'bloke'. On so many sites (usually American-led) if you say "bloke", somebody will say "bloke? Oh are you Australian?").