Is he cheating?!

[Mumoftwo95]

I'm really hoping someone can tell me if this means the hubby has been looking at these sites.. I didn't go through his phone, he asked me to put his torch on and a saw these notifications.. there are loads of them. Actually feeling sick to my stomach

Depends on what you classify cheating as?
that looks like porn to me, which I’m against - but I’d class that differently to cheating….

Looks like spam to me, my junk inbox is full of similar emails.

I think it's spam. I get loads of these too it's very annoying, sometimes you don't even access the sites to get these. 🤷🏼‍♀️

@MiddleagedBeachbum we haven't had sex in the last 4+ months. I don't class porn as cheating but if he's messaging people it's an emotional affair.. not only that but it is really hurtful knowing he may be up to no good when we are not being intimate x

I don't think he has accessed these intentionally. The troublesome notifications are all from a domain called safesurf.top, which looks like a pretend version of a genuine website/antivirus (safesurf). He has probably ended up seeing those notifications through pop ups on porn sites, but he won't have solicited those pictures or interacted at all with any woman to get them

I don’t think it’s spam.

These are actual notifications on his phone, not emails.

Looks like they’ve also made it through the SafeSurf settings, so definitely not there by accident.

The "safesurf.top" looks to be a Chrome extension which warns the user of any malicious sites they visit.

I would say that your husband has viewed that content within Chrome, and SafeSurf has sent the notification to say that the website is deemed malicious.

Yes this.

No .. I don't think so .. I get that kind of shit on my phone and I'm a 64 yr old heterosexual female happily married.. God knows what my search algorithm has picked up !

@QVC this is exactly my logic.. it's not like they're spam messages on Insta. They're notifications on his phone

Maybe ask him what them notifications are? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Looks like a browser hijacker imo it's not a genuine Safesurf notification

The website from the notification is malicious

I assume it's him who is not interested in sex anymore? If your sex life was good previously then I think I'd be suspicious too.

@Toptotoe exactly that

@orangeskys He is denying it saying its just spam notifications but they're all the same.. he blamed it on it being my old phone also. I guess there's no way of knowing if he's telling the truth

Those aren't real notifications, there's no way those women have sent him those photos. My best friend has an older android and from the games her kids have downloaded and plays on her phone she gets constant notifications for all sorts of things totally unrelated to the games or what she search's. She's a complete prude and even after deleting all games etc she still can't stop the pop ups. I'd say they come from an 'adult' app but that could be anything like games, gambling apps etc that are classed as 18+ in the playstore

It looks like spam to me

Wow. I'm glad I don't get spam like that. Could prove awkward sometimes.

Im sorry you are going through this. It is very lonely to be in a sexless marriage if you are not both on board with it and its also awful to live with suspicion.

Have you tried having a a discussion about why he no longer wants to have sex? I think I'd explain that this and then finding that stuff on his phone has lead you to put he 2 together as you think they may be connected.

Also can you check his spending? I don't know much about these types of sites but I'm guessing they must get paid somehow?

Literally feel broken. My sister is mentally unwell and made a patron to put nude photos on ect almost like only fans. Her page is repeatedly on his search history.

OP, do you get notifications like this on your phone? Nope, me either. If it walks like a duck, it's a duck.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this

He looks at your sisters nudes? And you know about it? I think that there is a whole different story and something you should be worried about, not the notifications

That is horrible OP.
So disrespectful to you. And to your sister actually if she is mentally unwell .

I would be devastated by this. Sorry you are going through this OP.

Hang on.... he's been looking at your sisters nudes? 😳😳😳