Is he cheating?!

[Mumoftwo95]

I'm really hoping someone can tell me if this means the hubby has been looking at these sites.. I didn't go through his phone, he asked me to put his torch on and a saw these notifications.. there are loads of them. Actually feeling sick to my stomach

The sister thing is a whole different ball game. I'd be broken at that too I'm afraid.
I haven't checked my emails this weekend. I had 68 spam. Mostly casino sites (I play a free merge game) but 1 from a lovely lady in Russia who wants to show me her ass for a fee. Not sure of the notifications and emails difference ...re loss of libido. My DH is going through the same which is very very unlike him. Been ongoing rhis year. Happened to me when meno hit too. My DH is undergoing testosterone tests with the GP but he is 57 so it does and can happen unfortunately but we agree we work through it together

That's definitely spam - the notifications are just pushed from his browser. He hadn't been messaging those woman.

The sister thing is probably a thread of its own 😮

You know this and you haven't filed for divorce?

The notifications are spam.

@AquaFurball I've literally just found out. I'm done. Utterly heartbroken with a 2 and 3 year old

Oh OP I'm so sorry. I hope you have the strength to deal with this.

@QVC I really don't have the strength. This is so bloody hard, I really don't know how I'm going to cope. I have nowhere to go so I'm stuck in this house with this pig of a man until I can eventually scrape up the money to leave.

@Mumoftwo95 You.can do this!! Are you working? When I left my ex my kids were roughly same age as yours so I was working pt but it was enough to start me off.

@Mumoftwo95, my heart goes out to you. His perving over your sister’s photos is beyond abhorrent. Such a heinous betrayal would be unforgivable for me.

@Youthiswastedontheyoung I work full time as a home baker so this is going to turn my whole life upside down. Where I live plays a massive part on making my income so not only is my marriage going down the drain, my career is too.

Thank you for the encouragement though

@Mumoftwo95 I promise you it's not. It might seem like it's impossible right now but step by step. You have a career and that's a fantastic start. It gives you options.
I left a very wealthy man and literally started my life back up again. Yes it is still not at all easy financially but I'm now remarried and most importantly respected.
You deserve that.

I know it's easy to say, but take it all one step at a time. You're at the beginning of crossroads and you need to plan, whatever route you're going to take.

Don't let your H minimise what he has done. No man should be looking at lewd pictures of his SiL, even if she put them online for paid-for-content. It's creepy and a complete disrespect to you.

Gather financial information and speak with solicitors (hopefully before you disclose to him that you have discovered what he's done) regarding D. You can get an idea of how it would go if you deicide to go down that route.

Protect your children from hearing the pair of you talking about this.

You have the weight of the world on your shoulders right now, but it'll ease up as time goes on and you start to get your head around all this.

So these are notifications from a website. They install after looking at the site. They send notifications like this to get you to revisit the site. So yes he is looking at porn.

I know its upsetting but if your not having sex perhaps address that? Think you need to talk.

@ZombieGirl86 the marriage is over, you can read the above messages 😔