I am Divorcing. ExH is sometimes here as we have two disabled young people (19 & 16) & it has been easier for him to see them here in 2 yrs since separation.
He's been away for the last month & I realised I felt SO much more relaxed.
He turned up this morning offered to walk dog which he did. (I have had a sudden worsening of my own mobility difficulties so it is very helpful atm).
He said 'happy to help with any other small jobs' (he never has kids at all so that didn't seem unreasonable to me so I asked him if he could rotate some laundry).
He ignored me & went off to do something else (this is very typical of him). when he came back I asked about the laundry again & he started hitting his head off a heavy door - 3 times - really suddenly. I appreciate he didn't touch me at all (& 'kids' were nowhere around) but it was quite violent & he stormed back out (with dog). I can't change the locks as the Divorce is not yet through but I don't want him back in here as it has really rattled me. Am I over-reacting?