How often do you have sex when you have a little one?

[Mum8929]

I have had a hard time to get in the mood since becoming pregnant my DD is just over a year old and I can probably count how many times DH and I have had sex. I feel a lot of guilt but just so exhausted and he’s not actively trying so it prob happens about once a month. Is this normal or are we doomed?

Please get mn to reword the title ffs 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

You may want to rephrase your question...

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You need to rename your title

Unfortunate thread title, you might want to get it edited 😳

Fackin' hell

I’m self medicating a toothache and kept thought I was misreading it at first. That’s clearly not what she meant but even the split second of having to think about it is not nice

Oooops!!😳

Well you’ll be pleased to know neither of us have had sex with either of our little ones.

When our daughter was a year we’d only just started back up really, and neither of us had given birth. Shes now 2 and a bit and we’re back to normal, if anything were a bit above what our previous normal was.

More than one way to read that! Several actually.

God, yeah reword the title.

This is why grammar matters.

Are we talking penis size?

Worst thread title ever.

I clicked to find out what little one you were having sex with

My DH doesn't like it when I call it that but once a week or so

Hi all,

We've updated the title now!

Please change the name of the thread

Not sure that’s much better 🤣

Oh my life

Absolutely normal in my opinion. Me and my DH have sex around once a month, and our son is 3.
Whatever you are both comfortable with. Be it once a month, or once a day, everyone has different drives and desires in their sex lives.

Just here for the replies 🤣

Personally I never have sex with little ones.

What on earth was it before, if that's the improvement?!

Dh and I were in a real dry spell until ds turned 13 mths. We probably had sex twice in the first year plus two other instances of intimacy just not the whole shebang.

When ds started to sleep more and was happy to be left with in laws for babysitting it did get easier. We were definitely in a real room mate stage for a long time and now we're trying to make a point of having more fun and dates and we started out trying to rebuild affection and then intimacy little by little. I wouldn't say you are doomed but I would say you need to talk about it very openly and honestly and sometimes you do need to actively make it a priority because for me, when I fell out of the way of it it kind of affected my libido further so it became like a cycle. Also just so you're aware breastfeeding can affect hormone levels and contribute to lack of libido as well.

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