I’ve been dating someone for a year or two and I have noticed in the last few months every now and then, he will say his coming over and not show up.
I can understand plans change or even he could have changed his mind but the thing that bothers me the most is the fact that he doesn’t even message or call to say he can’t make it. He just won’t show up and sometimes the next day I will get the apologies and excuses such as he fell asleep or his phone died on the way so he couldn’t let me know when he was here or some other excuse.
Last night again; he was due to come to visit me. He texted to say he had left home and then texted shortly after to say he was going to collect something from one of his friends on the way to me (no problem)- however over an hour later, he still didn’t show up. Today he hasn’t called or messaged to apologise or even explain why he didn’t show up (which I can imagine the reason was that he got caught up at his friends house and decided he would spend the evening catching up with him) but I’m really annoyed by the lack of communication and honestly I feel it’s quite disrespectful.
I haven’t spoken to him yet but I will mention this to him when he does call, but I’m curious to know others thoughts. Am I over reacting or is he in the wrong?
I’m over it personally and this has happened several times in the last few months. Nobody has ever done this to me before but him and I feel this is a dealbreaker so when I speak to him it will be to tell him we’re over - but am I being too harsh?