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He tried to hide my underwear...

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Skysnight · 04/01/2024 22:39

We have been together around a year. Not living together or anything. Anyway, I was over at his one night and we started doing the deed and I noticed him trying to hide my underwear down the bed. When I was getting ready to leave I pulled my underwear out from where he put them and he looked surprised that I knew where they were.

This was awhile ago but it's been at the back of my mind. I think he wanted to keep my underwear? Why would he? What would you think/feel about this?

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StrawberryWater · 04/01/2024 22:45

Probably has a fetish.

What would I think?
Well I mean if he asked nicely for my permission and it was consensual then I wouldn't have an issue.

Him trying to do it sneakily?
Red flag.

Kinks should be discussed and agreed upon. They shouldn't be done covertly when there's another person right there! I mean yikes bringing someone into your kink without talking about it? Run.

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Wakemeup17 · 04/01/2024 22:50

He is dating someone else he's trying to dump and the underwear was for her to find?

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MILTOBE · 04/01/2024 23:05

Did he really think you wouldn't notice your own underwear was missing?

He sounds shifty, though. What did he say he was doing with it?

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Skysnight · 04/01/2024 23:08

He said something along the lines of - I will find them for you and give you them next time but I obviously knew where they were.

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Epidote · 04/01/2024 23:08

I think he wanted to get it for wearing it or to smell it. Whichever is a fetish.

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Almostwelsh · 04/01/2024 23:10

He's a knicker sniffer

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Falkenburg · 04/01/2024 23:21

So you took off your clothes in the bedroom and he surreptitiously hid them in the notion that you would happily leave without finding them and his say so of when they turn up he'll give them to you!

Unless he has a bedroom the size of three football pitches, how did he think h could get away with that?

I'd dump him just for being a thicko.

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Pigsinpainauchocolat · 04/01/2024 23:21

To wank into/sniff/wear once you'd gone. Seems pretty obvious.

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highlo · 05/01/2024 08:21

But does he just think you'd leave without finding them?

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ChodeOfChodHall · 05/01/2024 08:34

He is stealing then passing quality brands to a Chinese manufacturer for financial gain. They are making large quantities of counterfeit ladies knickers for resale across the Far East and South America and need samples to deconstruct then replicate.

it’s a bit grim of people to jump to the conclusion he is taking them to wear over his head in private time, leg holes pinned back behind his ears so the gusset is perfectly placed under his nose. The Chinese cartel involvement is far more plausible.

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LadyLolaRuben · 05/01/2024 09:57

For a fetish once you've left or a trophy. Both are grim

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Avatartar · 05/01/2024 09:58

Immediate ick

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TomatoSandwiches · 05/01/2024 10:00

Falkenburg · 04/01/2024 23:21

So you took off your clothes in the bedroom and he surreptitiously hid them in the notion that you would happily leave without finding them and his say so of when they turn up he'll give them to you!

Unless he has a bedroom the size of three football pitches, how did he think h could get away with that?

I'd dump him just for being a thicko.

This 😂 he's not very bright is he op!

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brainworms · 05/01/2024 10:05

Yep. You've got a worn knicker sniffer. I won't go onto detail with what he probably wants to do with them.

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BMW6 · 05/01/2024 10:20

Ewwwww 😐dump and run, he's a knicker sniffer

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Superfrog3 · 05/01/2024 10:24

😂... Everyone forgets the Chinese cartel and their knicker laundering

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WestendGrrls · 05/01/2024 10:25

Best case scenario, he wants to wank in them.

Worst case scenario, he wants to wear them.

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WestendGrrls · 05/01/2024 10:27

ChodeOfChodHall · 05/01/2024 08:34

He is stealing then passing quality brands to a Chinese manufacturer for financial gain. They are making large quantities of counterfeit ladies knickers for resale across the Far East and South America and need samples to deconstruct then replicate.

it’s a bit grim of people to jump to the conclusion he is taking them to wear over his head in private time, leg holes pinned back behind his ears so the gusset is perfectly placed under his nose. The Chinese cartel involvement is far more plausible.

🤣🤣🤣

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WetBandits · 05/01/2024 10:29

Does he have a dog? I only ask that because I was seeing someone whose dog snuck in while we were ‘busy’ and tore my bloody expensive knickers to shreds! He replaced them but he was always careful to stow them away safely after that 😂

In all likelihood though, he wanted to keep them as a souvenir of sorts.

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Wondering2341 · 05/01/2024 10:29

The simplest explanation is the best.
He hid them, didn't ask permission to keep and seemed surprised why? It indicates guilt or shame to be secretive. He had a specific preplanned idea in his head to keep them he already knew what he wanted them for.

It all indicates he kept them for a fetish. Most common fetish is to sniff them and wank into them, cum on them.

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EmptyYoghurtPot · 05/01/2024 10:36

You’ve been seeing him a year but he hasn’t done this before? Is it the first time you slept together? First time at his place? All a bit odd really.

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InAPickle12345 · 05/01/2024 13:50

ChodeOfChodHall · 05/01/2024 08:34

He is stealing then passing quality brands to a Chinese manufacturer for financial gain. They are making large quantities of counterfeit ladies knickers for resale across the Far East and South America and need samples to deconstruct then replicate.

it’s a bit grim of people to jump to the conclusion he is taking them to wear over his head in private time, leg holes pinned back behind his ears so the gusset is perfectly placed under his nose. The Chinese cartel involvement is far more plausible.

I seriously admire your level of imagination and wit at 8.30 in the morning 😂👏👏👏

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Skysnight · 06/01/2024 13:45

@EmptyYoghurtPot He usually stays at mine.

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Baldieheid · 06/01/2024 13:48

Skysnight · 06/01/2024 13:45

@EmptyYoghurtPot He usually stays at mine.

And I bet he takes a peek at your laundry basket when you go to the loo.

Missing any knickers? Or stockings, maybe a bra?

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Glarptip · 06/01/2024 13:49

Skysnight · 06/01/2024 13:45

@EmptyYoghurtPot He usually stays at mine.

Are knickers going missing from your place?

I'd be sort of surprised if they're not.

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