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He tried to hide my underwear...

53 replies

Skysnight · 04/01/2024 22:39

We have been together around a year. Not living together or anything. Anyway, I was over at his one night and we started doing the deed and I noticed him trying to hide my underwear down the bed. When I was getting ready to leave I pulled my underwear out from where he put them and he looked surprised that I knew where they were.

This was awhile ago but it's been at the back of my mind. I think he wanted to keep my underwear? Why would he? What would you think/feel about this?

OP posts:
seeitthroughmyeyes · 06/01/2024 13:49

I'd feel sorry for anyone sniffing my knickers 😂

Original poster
Skysnight · 06/01/2024 14:03

I've noticed any missing underwear. I feel like it was on a whim and he just tried his luck. I don't feel that it was pre planned. I also don't think he wanted to keep them to wear them 😂. They would not go near him, he probably wouldn't even be able to get one leg in.

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Original poster
Skysnight · 06/01/2024 14:04

haven't noticed ant missing underwear.

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Baldieheid · 06/01/2024 14:06

Maybe just a one off impulse then.

If ot bothers you, make sure he knows that you don't consent to him doing that.

If you're okay, make sure to have clean spares at his so you're not left nekkid if you don't want to be!

Pinkbonbon · 06/01/2024 14:07

OK I don't want to freak you out but from personal experience, check about for hidden cameras. Only person I know who did this used to film his victims and keep their pants as trophies.

Someone who steals your pants a year into a relationship is a fucking creep and a dickhead anyway btw. A normal person would have just asked.

SeatonCarew · 06/01/2024 14:23

WestendGrrls · 05/01/2024 10:25

Best case scenario, he wants to wank in them.

Worst case scenario, he wants to wear them.

Third scenario, he wants to sell them on eBay. 😳

Mumtogirlss · 06/01/2024 14:32

Yeah I'd be worried about

• Worst case scenario would be he is the creep that has a secret camera set up / trophy 🏆 thing after with keeping them.

• Fettish not so much if that doesn't
bother you in sense he may enjoy some um me time later with a reminisce wank ( again some people may think that's mental but each to their own) if it was impulse but he should tell you if that's what he's into to and also as it's a breach of trust to just do that without you knowing.

• Or you aren't as serious as you think and he's hiding as has a partner but I'm not sure if you were like getting ready and would have packed them if that's the case.

Rec0veringAcademic · 06/01/2024 16:03

So he wouldn't have to buy a pair on Vinted? There is quite the market out there, so I'm told...

Original poster
Skysnight · 06/01/2024 18:25

@Pinkbonbon "check about for hidden cameras"

@Mumtogirlss "Worst case scenario would be he is the creep that has a secret camera set up"

I was actually worried about this after I left and it has also been at the back of my mind but I have just been brushing it off. The only reason I thought this is because he turned his side lamp on 2 times and was looking over at it while we were doing it but he only had the lamp on for no longer than 5 seconds each time?
Do you still think this is likely?
I hope not 😔.

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Mumtogirlss · 06/01/2024 20:43

Id look up hidden cameras online as there are alarm clocks all sorts of hidden camera gadgets that pose as regular day things you would have in your home. So if you recognise something from his room like that you'll know. If that's the case it probably wouldn't be a camera hidden behind an object too risky. God I hope not, we all just hypothesizing here.

Rattai · 06/01/2024 20:48

Did you ask him why he put the light on twice???

Mumtogirlss · 06/01/2024 20:51

It wasn't anything like this was it OP it's touch operated. There's quite a few lamp cameras I'd have a look. I don't want to worry you but that sounds so bizarre to turn it on look over. That's weird behaviour in the act.

He tried to hide my underwear...
InAPickle12345 · 06/01/2024 21:44

Skysnight · 06/01/2024 18:25

@Pinkbonbon "check about for hidden cameras"

@Mumtogirlss "Worst case scenario would be he is the creep that has a secret camera set up"

I was actually worried about this after I left and it has also been at the back of my mind but I have just been brushing it off. The only reason I thought this is because he turned his side lamp on 2 times and was looking over at it while we were doing it but he only had the lamp on for no longer than 5 seconds each time?
Do you still think this is likely?
I hope not 😔.

Ooooh, this guy sounds flipping creepy OP. Maybe try and look up the lamp he had and see if it could possibly be a covert camera. All round though, this guy sounds like a weirdo... is it not giving you the ick?

brainworms · 06/01/2024 22:54

ChodeOfChodHall · 05/01/2024 08:34

He is stealing then passing quality brands to a Chinese manufacturer for financial gain. They are making large quantities of counterfeit ladies knickers for resale across the Far East and South America and need samples to deconstruct then replicate.

it’s a bit grim of people to jump to the conclusion he is taking them to wear over his head in private time, leg holes pinned back behind his ears so the gusset is perfectly placed under his nose. The Chinese cartel involvement is far more plausible.

He's really not.

It's not that complicated. He's sniffing and/or wanking into them. He's also probably wearing them.

InAPickle12345 · 06/01/2024 22:59

@brainworms how could you not pick up that @ChodeOfChodHall's post is a massive (and hilarious) piss take??? 😂😂😂

brainworms · 06/01/2024 23:03

InAPickle12345 · 06/01/2024 22:59

@brainworms how could you not pick up that @ChodeOfChodHall's post is a massive (and hilarious) piss take??? 😂😂😂

... because I'm mentally fucking exhausted basically.

EarthSight · 06/01/2024 23:05

I'd be concerned about what he's actually doing with them.

Next time, please write a message on the inside of your knickers saying 'You dirty, DIRTY git!'.

InAPickle12345 · 06/01/2024 23:08

@brainworms 😂 Sorry to hear that, you've given me a good laugh though... The thought of you believing the poster was seriously suggesting he was selling them to a Chinese cartel has me giggling! x

Pinkbonbon · 07/01/2024 00:54

Tbh I think these oddities like the lamp thing feel uncomfortable at the time. They stick in our mind.

The guy I know that was filming people, I remember being in his bathroom at a party long before I knew about that and thinking 'I hope there's not a camera in here'. Odd thought...never thought it at any other house parties. I think sometimes more sense things about people, rooms and behaviours and might he consciously know what's what but our instincts do.

Tbh the fact that you've been dating this guy a year and remotely have a feeling that he could be that sort of person...I think tells you everything you need to know about his character. Sometimes we kinda know people are not good people, we just don't listen to those instincts.

candycane222 · 07/01/2024 13:11

If the lamp isn't a hidden camera itself, the flashing on and off of the light might make it easier to find a particular bit of video on fast forward 😬😬

Original poster
Skysnight · 07/01/2024 19:20

I hope he wasn't recording and just wanted to get a "better look" by turning on the light which was my original thought.

OP posts:
Sceptical123 · 18/04/2024 08:58

Are you ok OP? Hope the lamp was in fact a lamp….

Opentooffers · 18/04/2024 12:44

He might of liked the idea of you having to walk around without underwear for a while.
Tbf, I'd say its unusual to have a lamp off at all and be doing it in the dark. Mostly the lamp would stay on so can see what your doing.

LaurieFairyCake · 18/04/2024 13:39

Another disgusting weirdo bloke EnvyHmm

SwordToFlamethrower · 18/04/2024 14:25

Why do women have to constantly worry about men's fetishes and abuse? It is so grim and depressing.

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