How do you cope with narcissist stbxh and his vile gf ( ow) he turns up once a week to collect dc for 6hrs shes in the car glaring and giving me filthy looks from the car or she gets out, puts dc in the car and smirks at me. On two occasions after pick up i got a txt off him saying i shouldn't verbally abuse his gf infront of our dc. This didnt happen on either occasion, either they are both making it up and just sent the txt to make me look bad, or she told him i did, and he believes her but . They are both mental.
I just ignore her actions and now he wont speak to me or give me eye contact anymore which suits me as we are nc, we communicate via our dcs mobile which is tuned on twice a week so he can video call our dc.
I just get so so upsett every time she turns up at my house, i hate seeing her. Between the two of them they tryed to end me one way or another ( very long backstory)
Im just so sick and tired of them constantly poking me for a reaction.
I wish it didnt bother me so much, i wake in the night most nights having convasations in my head with him telling him what i think of them both and how he's letting dc down but in all honestly these convos wont ever happen as he is so toxic and any convasation with him just gives him an arena to start his toxic games and he wont take any of it onboard. i just feel at the moment they are really getting under my skin.
I'd just like to know how others cope with the ow and narc exh and how i can stop getting so upsett when i see her.
Any advice welcome!