Husband has secret female friends

[Inthegreyzone]

Looking at DD baby photos on old phone when photos of a lady in revealing swim suit started coming up, bikini selfies, pouty selfies. I realised gallery was linked to DH WhatsApp. I confronted him and he deleted their chat before I could see. Then I see 2 other random ladies in his WhatsApp who he's been chatting with daily and sending videos with. He met them online and exchanged numbers. Apparently these are just friends but he has betrayed me 'sexting' with a girl before and I've not been able to trust him since. He is always on his phone and says its because he has Adhd but I never know who he spends all this time talking to. I don't think he'll ever change and I don't know whether to ignore this or think about separatation

women could run theirselves in to the ground over this kind of thing

You are spot on here redruby and lots of women do twist themselves into knots trying to solve the unsolvable - they think the problem is them instead of realising they’re dealing with trash.

Thanks all for the responses. He's so convinced that he's done nothing wrong that I question myself. He's coming home later but I still need space. I'll be looking for a job to give myself security. I think I might be happier on my own although that's a scary and unknown future.