A while ago I posted this https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/money-matters/4660043-settling-the-bill-after-holiday-with-a-friend so thought I'd share an update considering how many comments it drew...
I was in a really bad place and I think the trip pushed me over the edge. After a lot of time working through my anxiety and stress I realised I needed to confront the friend...
I told her I felt treated like a personal assistant instead of a friend while on holiday and she basically denied almost everything, accused me of being judgemental and took no responsibility.
Oh, and she insists the not having a working card thing was bad luck and not her fault. When I asked why the card worked 1-2 times but otherwise not at all she say 'I don't know it was really weird' but when I said it made me feel like she was using me to deal with admin she denied it and insisted it wasn't her fault ('they just have a stupid banking system' 🙄).
It was very freeing to confront her about her behaviour, she's apparently lost friends in the past with no idea why so at least now she'll know!
Anyway, glad I told her, glad I'm doing better... I'm completely despair for the state of our country when people like her are in positions of power though. What can you do!