I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years and 5 months. We have 2 children together (yes I know it was very soon). We don’t live together or are working towards any plans to. He sees the children twice a week and pays £70 a month towards them.
I feel INCREDIBLY resentful of the fact he gets so much freedom and I don’t. I feel like ending the relationship, becoming a single parent (i pretty much am already), and claiming child maintenance (calculator said I am eligible for £70 a week, not a month)
Is a relationship like this worth trying to maintain or am I being taken for a ride?
We have nice times when we are together. We don’t tend to do too much, mainly watching Netflix on the sofa. He hasn’t had the children overnight on his own at his yet. (We have a 7 week old, 20 month old and I have a 7 year old)
This week he hasn’t seen the children since Tuesday. He worked 3 12 hr shifts and went out to the pub last night (without telling me). I’m on maternity leave so I’m doing all of the childcare, but when I worked 35 hours a week until the start of my maternity leave, I did all of the childcare too.
I really just feel like giving up and to just choose to become an official single parent. It wouldn’t make much difference to my life except I won’t have anyone to text every day and make me dinner sometimes.
I would just like someone else’s opinion of this set up as I don’t have anyone to talk to about it in real life. He’s a nice enough person but after 2 and a half years shouldn’t we be working towards living together and should he be expected to see his children for more than twice a week? I know I pretty much set myself up for failure from the start but all my relationships have been rather shit anyway.
Thanks for reading.
(I reckon this thread will be rather outting if someone I know reads it but I’m not sure I care anymore with hiding how I feel.)