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Does a cheater change?

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anotherfuture · 10/08/2022 17:52

My DH has been cheating on me on and off for years. We separated for 2years I was lost without him and I took him back. The cycle has started again, we've started therapy but will he actually change?

We've been together since kids ..

OP posts:

janaus2000 · 26/08/2022 17:10

Once a cheater always a cheater

pieceofpies · 26/08/2022 17:30

People can change.

blue30 · 26/08/2022 18:03

Can someone who’s never cheated cheat in the future? Of course, so it’s possible for a cheater to stop too. But will they? Probably not by the sounds of it.

supersop60 · 26/08/2022 22:48

I'd say it's unlikely he will change, but the therapy might help.
I changed. I've been the cheater, the OW and the one cheated on. Whichever side of the triangle you're on, it's shit, and I promised myself I'd never do it again. 23 years faithful.

feckoffbrian · 26/08/2022 23:10

Bellyups · 11/08/2022 21:56

Why would he stop cheating? You can’t live without him and will take him back. You’ve set the standard. Why would he just have sex with you when it’s ok to have sex with lots of people? If you find out, you’ll throw your toys off of the pram and then take him back. He knows this.

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