I am starting to feel really down. I am 8 years older than my fiancé, we have been together for 9 years and have a great relationship, however just recently I’ve been feeling very low with our setup.
I am 36 and he is 28 now. We got together when he was 19 and I was 27. Without sounding big headed I have always been made to feel very attractive. When we got together I had always had very good looking boyfriends, whenever I went out I had loads of (unwanted) male attention, people used to comment on my good looks all the time. He pursued me very hard (I wasn’t keen on dating someone so much younger than me at the time) however after some fun drunken nights together things progressed and here we are today. He too was always a looker, but now he is 28 he is absolutely gorgeous. Whenever we go out together these days he is the one who gets all the attention.
We went out today for lunch and took a picture of us, he looks amazing and I could see the changes in my looks in the photo. I look after myself and he is always complimentary about me but I just feel he is now coming into his prime and I’m maybe past my best.
We are getting married in a few months and the feeling that he will eventually leave me for someone younger is eating me up inside. I thought you were supposed to get more confident in age but I feel for me I’m going the other way, purely for this reason alone (I know this sounds very shallow).
I adore him and want nothing more than to live my life and all our dreams beside him, but will these feelings ever go or will it only get worse? Any success stories with age gaps out there?
Feeling 🙁 when I should be feeling amazing