Who does what in your house?

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I've had this chat many times with friends and i'm really intersted to get a wider picture. Who does the folowing in your house if you're a SAHM?

1. cooking
2. cleaning
3. ironing
4. hoovering

5 food shopping

1. gardening
2. changing beds/towels, etc
3. washing

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . 11. DIY In my house: 1 - me, 2 - me, 3 - dh, 4 - dh (mostly) 5 - me - 6 - dh 7 - both 8 - both (dh more) 9 - dh, 10 - me, 11 - dh

1. cooking - mainly me

1. cleaning - mainly me, dh tends to do kitchen and I always do bathrooms

1. ironing - we don't iron

1. hoovering - both

5 food shopping - main shop both, bits dh

1. gardening - me, tis my passion!

1. changing beds/towels, etc - I wash them, dh puts them back on as I'd rather die

1. washing - me. I love washing, dh hates it

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling -dh but we both enjoy going to the recycling centre and throwing the glass when it smashes...

10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc - mainly me

11. DIY - dh enjoys it - makes him feel manly and I encourage it.

I friend the other day commented on how 'traditional' our roles were. When we got married we choose two jobs each we hated and the other does it. Andy hates cleaning toilets and washing - I don';t mind and he's always grateful. I hate taking out rubbish, locking up in the dark and putting duvet cases on.

1. cooking
2. cleaning
3. ironing
4. hoovering

5 food shopping

1. gardening
2. changing beds/towels, etc
3. washing

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . 11. DIY In our house:-

1. me
2. me
3. me
4. me
5. me
6. me
7. me
8. me
9. Dh but I sort out and have ask him to take

it out 10.me 11.Dh or get someone in

I'm not a sahm, we both work ft oth

1. cooking BOTH BUT MOSTLY DH AT AS I GET IN LATER
2. cleaning DH
3. ironing NOBODY, WE DON'T DO IT BUT IF DH WANTS A SHIRT HE DOES IT
4. hoovering WHOEVER

5 food shopping DH

1. gardening DH
2. changing beds/towels, etc Me or DH
3. washing DH DOES ALL ARM

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appt s. social stuff, babysitters, etc . BOTH OF US 11. DIY DH

1. cooking - me
2. cleaning - both
3. ironing - never heard of it!
4. hoovering - both
5. food shopping - both
6. gardening - dh
7. changing beds/towels - both
8. washing - both
9. rubbish - both

10. arranging things - me 11. DIY - both but dh mostly

Currently:

1. cooking - dh
2. cleaning - me
3. ironing - me
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - dh

1. gardening - both
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - me 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - me 11. DIY - both

We both work full-time now, which is why dh has taken over shopping and cooking. When I was a SAHM I did all 11 of the above (except dh did the more 'structural' bits of DIY, which he still does).

1. cooking me
2. cleaning me
3. ironing me
4. hoovering me
5. food shopping me
6. gardening me
7. changing beds/towels etc me
8. washing me
9. putting out rubbish/sorting recycling me

10. arranging thins me 11. diy me or if it is something i am not strong enough or skilled for, i'll pay someone to do it

Do you think this sounds rather one sided? And he thinks he has a difficult life

i do it all but dp works all day

1. cooking ME
2. cleaning ME
3. ironing ME Although i Rarely iron DH's stuff
4. hoovering ME

5 food shopping ME

1. gardening DH
2. changing beds/towels, etc ME
3. washing ME

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling ME 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY DH

To be honest DH works overseas so most of the cleaning, foodshopping, washing, changing beds etc is done before he gets home. He also does not really expect me to cook for us as we tend to eat out or get takeaways when he is home.

He really doesn't do a great deal of stuff in the house but he is brilliant at anything DIY and will do things as soon as he is asked.

Oh I meant to add I work part time so not a SAHM.

The other downside to him working away is he thinks of home as a hotel and leaves trails of things behind him clothes on the floor and such as i think he thinks we have room service

1. cooking - me
2. cleaning - me/cleaner
3. ironing - cleaner
4. hoovering - me/cleaner/whoever has made a mess

5 food shopping - me

1. gardening - no garden
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me/cleaner
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - me 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc - both of us 11. DIY - me or someone I organise/employ

1. cooking - ME
2. cleaning - ME, DP occasionally does dishes and gives a tidy up. (not to my standard though!)
3. ironing - ME
4. hoovering - ME

5 food shopping - ME

1. gardening - NO GARDEN
2. changing beds/towels, etc - ME
3. washing - ME

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - DP takes bin out, I sort re-cycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist, appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - ME 11. DIY - DP

1. cooking ---- both
2. cleaning ---- me
3. ironing - me
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping ----me

1. gardening ----the gardener
2. changing beds/towels, etc --me
3. washing ---DH

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling ----both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . -me 11. DIY -----DH

Now I'm cross

1. cooking - me weekdays and for ds, dh weekends
2. cleaning - me
3. ironing - me (but planning to pay someone else to do it soon)
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - mainly me, occasionally dh at weekends (leave him to decide what he wants to cook and buy the ingredients)

1. gardening - me - not a chore, I love it. I get dh to help with heavy/high stuff at the moment because pregnant
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - me 11. DIY - me, except drilling which I won't do.

this is v interesting - keep those posts coming in!

This thread has been an eyeopener for me. I do everything on the list except bits we pay others to do (i.e. gardening and DIY). I'm not a SAHM either, but do work a lot less than DH. This has made me feel quite sad as I now I couldn't get him to do anything on the list. It's out of habit I suppose!

1. cooking - both of us
2. cleaning - both
3. ironing - don't do any
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - dh

1. gardening - dh
2. changing beds/towels, etc - both
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - dh 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - me 11. DIY - dh and FIL

I do absolutely everybloodything. I
Work part time though and DH out to work at 5am and back 8.30pm and does alot of work at weekends. WOuld be grateful of the occasional cup of tea though.

1. cooking ME
2. cleaning ME
3. ironing ME
4. hoovering ME

5 food shopping ME

1. gardening ME
2. changing beds/towels, etc ME
3. washing ME

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling ME 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY BOTH BUT NOT VERY OFTEN!

I'm booting him out, he does bugger all!!! LOL

Cooking, weekdays MOI, weekends, him

Food shopping me, online, so not a problem.

Washing up, both.

Bathing boys, him.

Rubbish, recycling, him.

Buying all gifts, wrapping, sending, me.

Hoovering, all 3 of us I'm including Polish cleaner in this one)
He's good. I'm good. Together we are beautiful!

1. cooking - ME (dh will do if i ask)

1. cleaning - Me (except dh office which he does)

1. ironing - Me but only the bare min.

1. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - me He has dd 1&2

1. gardening - my sister (she a gardener)

1. changing beds/towels, etc - me

1. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - Both

10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - me

11. DIY - DH does overtime to pay someelse to DIY jobs.

All of it - me

Except DIY. If it is decorating, then mostly me, if it is other stuff, then after waiting for months DH, or if his parents come to stay, his dad.

Dh does sometimes wash up the few things that can't go in the dishwasher.

Oh, and he does sort out anything to do with the car, but I think this is because I don't drive, so don't have much to do with it. Actually I do clean the inside of it from time to time, otherwise it would not get done.

In my house

1. cooking - me mainly, him at weekends
2. cleaning - me
3. ironing - me, trying to teach 17 and 14 yr old kids to do their own.
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - me during week, dh on sundays

1. gardening - dh
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - both

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .- me except for babysitters, have got 2 older kids to babysit youngest. 11. DIY - dh, he won't let me do it! :