Who does what in your house?

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I've had this chat many times with friends and i'm really intersted to get a wider picture. Who does the folowing in your house if you're a SAHM?

1. cooking
2. cleaning
3. ironing
4. hoovering

5 food shopping

1. gardening
2. changing beds/towels, etc
3. washing

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . 11. DIY In my house: 1 - me, 2 - me, 3 - dh, 4 - dh (mostly) 5 - me - 6 - dh 7 - both 8 - both (dh more) 9 - dh, 10 - me, 11 - dh

Before and after seperation all down to me including the DIY and gardening. Always me.

Kids help with setting table, cleaning up after meals, putting away clothes etc.

I work three days a week and DH tends to work long hours.

1. cooking - me

1. cleaning - me

1. ironing - me

1. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - me

1. gardening - both of us

1. changing beds/towels, etc - me

1. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - DH

10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc- me

11. DIY - both of us

On a weekday - DH up at 6.20, feeds all animals, sees to fire (logburner), feeds GS. Clears any dishes they use. Hangs out any washing, or puts on racks to dry, puts on washing machine if needed. Maks sure GS is washed and teeth brushed. Then wakes me at 7.15 as he is leaving for work.
As a F/T SAHM I then clean whatever else needs doing (vaccuming, dusting, etc) get GS ready and take him to school. Then do everything up to DH getting in (meal on table most days as he arrives home). At which point I stop and he takes over. Clears dishes, etc. Spends time with GS, reads with him, puts him to bed.
Preps his own and GS's packed lunches for the following day.
He does the main food shopping every week, but I pick up any other items or extra things on the way back from school.
DH does 99% of the gardening.
DS does the ironing every week.
ON his days off, he does everything

when in the short periods i wasn't working and he was

1. cooking - me always dinner on table - consider it only fair
2. cleaning - me
3. ironing - me except his stuff he would do his own uniform anc clothes
4. hoovering - me

5 food shopping - together

1. gardening - me
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - both

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - him 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. - me social stuff, babysitters, etc . - me 11. DIY - neither

i think its only fair if you are a sahm that you do most of the housework - i do not think it fair that one person goes out to work all day and has to share housework to a large degree.

howeer when both working there shoud be a more equiv division of labout depending on circumstances

1. cooking - me
2. cleaning - me and the housekeeper
3. ironing - housekeeper
4. hoovering -housekeeper

5 food shopping - me

1. gardening - me
2. changing beds/towels, etc - housekeeper
3. washing - me and the housekeeper

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - me and housekeeper 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .- me 11. DIY - me

DH hired housekeeper to take over his responsibility, as you can see.

1-10 me
11 no-one

but dh wroks 18 hr days mostlly.

1. cooking DH
2. cleaning CLEANER
3. ironing DH (but that is just his uniform, dont iron anything else)
4. hoovering ME

5 food shopping ME

1. gardening DH
2. changing beds/towels, etc ME
3. washing BOTH

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY DH

Cooking - me if absolutely unavoidable.
Cleaning - me. Or my mother when she feels sorry for me!
Ironing - never mention that word!!!
Hoovering - me, every day, I love it.
Food shopping - my 'favourites' list at Tesco.com
Gardening - mum and dad help me every few months in one go.
Changing beds - me, not as often as we should.
Washing, me again. If mum helps she shrinks everything and I get cross!
Rubbish etc. Me
Arranging things - me.
(forgetting these arrangements - also me)
DIY - me! again I love it.

Who needs a man Ok I do but only to cook!

1. cooking - Me
2. cleaning - Both
3. ironing - DH
4. hoovering - DH mostly

5 food shopping - ME

1. gardening - me when i get round to it
2. changing beds/towels, etc - towels me, beds DH but i change DS and DDs bed
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY - BOTH