Is it my fault.? I am really upset

[empen]

My last boyf was violent and verbally abusive - he was controlling and a bully. I spent a long time trying to get him out of my life.
Have just had a massive row with current boyf and he has punched me and pulled my hair then turned it around and said it is my fault - its me cause my ex did it to me too.

I have condensed what is a long story into a few words. He is asleep right now and I don't know what I am going to do. I live miles away from any family, have no friends in th area, have a 5yr old dd and am going into hospital on Tues to have C/Sec. He has punched a hole in my wardrobe and threw my clothes out the window (they are still there).

I hope you follow up on Freckle's suggestions.

You should be no-one's punchbag.

you are getting good advice from people who know what you should do..do go to the police

ok, I am going to get out the house now before he wakes up. thanks for your advice - I will check back later. thanks for responding to my post - it does mean a lot

Go now. PLease get this sorted.

Well done. And make your first stop the police station.

So much good advice on here. Please listen to it, we talk from experience.

hugs to you

xx

Good luck. I really hope that you get the help you need.

attilla, i know where you're coming from on the self-worth front, but i really think that empen needs our positive support with practical arrangements to get her out of the situation she's in right now. she can work on herself once she's safe.

That is excellent empen. Be strong, you'll get through this, you and your children deserve better.

well done and good luck

absolutely not your fault and please please please make sure you do get out now!!

lalaa

I see where you're coming from. I however, wrote in my first post on page 1 that this issue is for her good self to think about another time.

I hope that empen managed to sort out something concrete today in terms of outside help.

please leave.

I hope you've sorted something out empen! Let us know how you got on today.

you need to give your tenants notice - and leave - go to police station now.

please dont let your children see that this is the way a relationship works - cos guess what they will put up with?

you wouldnt want that for your daughter - please go

Empen, just adding my voices to the chorus that this is not your fault. Any man who attacks a woman is repsonsible for his own actions - just because you've been in three relationships like this doesn't make it your fault it just means that you have been very unlucky with the men you have got together with.

I hope you and your dd are OK and that the police will act to protect you from him.

Just sending good luck to you Empen - you absolutely did the right think to leave and I hope we hear from you soon that you are ok.
None of this is your fault, not now, not before, not ever.

I'm taking it as a good sign that we haven't heard from empen since 8:15 this morning and that she did leave and get some help!

Are you okay Empen?

Just read this Empen - hope you're OK.

Just read this too, really hope you are okay. There is no need to blame yourself at all for this, there are a lot of abusive men out there and it's not you that's causing it, it's them.
Hope you are your LO are okay
Keep us posted
xx

omg i hope you are ok i really hope you reported him to the police they can help you have you got a number for a womens refuge? you need to do whats best for you your dd and the new baby! hugs

Has anybody heard from Empen?

Am a little concerned about her

Hope you are ok - let us know ASAP x