We have been married for 3 years and have 2 young children. My husband works Monday to Friday which is fair enough be he does absolutely nothing with his children and doesn't help around the house. He doesn't play with them he rarely changes a nappy and has only gave our 5 months 2 bottles in his whole we life. He never bathed them and hes never put any of them to bed. When I mention it he gets angry and then twist it cause we are rarely have s*x as I'm just rushed off my feet everyday, he says I need to change and start having more us time and then when he sees me change he will which is ridiculous cause hes a dad.
His temper is a different story when we argue he doesnt like what I have to say he yells for me to shut up and if I don't her started punching and breaking things. Yesterday he punched about 4 wholes in my kitchen door while DD was watching and she started crying that same night she woke 20 crying. After the kitchen door he nearly ripped the stair gate off the wall and he lifted the babies bouncer as if he was going to throw it. When hes in this maddness of anger he says things like if I don't shut up he is going to punch the f*king life out of me or ripped my f*king throat out... I don't know what to do I've told him 10000 times he needs professional help but doesn't listen. We are homeowners and have the 2 children to think about but I keep thinking I need to leave this. What would you all do? Plus I don't have many friends to talk to about it my friends are his friends