I am in need of the biggest handhold to get out of the situation I am in

[SuperlativeScrubs]

I am in an abusive relationship. Tonight I am cutting all ties and hiding away where he won't find me. I have taken all social media offline and abandoned others with the exception of Mumsnet (which he doesn't know about). I am even changing my personal email which is hard because so much goes through there.

Please help me. I can't go back.

Are you safe, OP? Are you with someone who can help you?

Handhold

Do you have RL support?

Have you got everything you need?

Oh love, are you somewhere safe now?

Hi OP ,squeezing your hand tightly here.Do you have all you need and family/friend support.Any DC? Xxxx

Hi OP ,squeezing your hand tightly here.Do you have all you need and family/friend support.Any DC? Xxxx

You can do this, Superlative!

Good luck OP. Are you in a place of safety?

Hugs OP. Superlative is the word. xxx

Absolutely OP, you’re not going back. This is the start of your happily ever after and you’ll have everyone on Mumsnet behind you (and that’s a lot of people).
Stay safe & stay strong x

Here's my hand.
Please be safe.

I've been through it and am thriving now.
So is my son.

Good for you for taking the best decision for your future!

Big hugs OP...hard situation but right decision. Remember your local womens aid charity are there to offer practical support and advice if needed.

Brilliant! There will be moments of doubt that you will need to work through, if I was you, while it’s still fresh in your mind write a list of reasons you’ve gone so that you can remind yourself if you need it.

Well done for taking these steps, you are so close to the happy life you deserve.

Bless you, be strong xxx hand hold from me.

Thank you all so much

hi, first of all well done on being so brave. i removed myself from a situation like this years ago. it is hard but just keep the end goal in sight, freedom, happiness. are you safe?

So brave, this is a massive thing you're doing, please take care. Good luck.

Get rid of all your Sent and Draft messages on your old email, just in case he's accessing it.

Best of luck - you are very brave.

Here's my hand. Well done lovely, you've got this.

Wow!! You are marvelous. It takes a lot to go 'cold turkey'. Well done you for taking this step. Your future's so bright you gotta wear shades.
😎😎🤩🤩

Here for you. You are brave and strong

Be 💪 strong

Well done OP. Its the best feeling to be free. I was in an abusive relationship too. I still feel embarrassed and ashamed 10 years later. I didn't tell my family. It really can happen to anyone. I was stalked and isolated in another country and alone. I hope you're not alone. Change your phone number along with all the email etc.

Make sure you change your bank account in case he knows your account number, Sort code & PIN number. If you speak to your mobile phone provider, they will change your phone number if you tell them you are a DV victim.

Didn't think of that @HollowTalk so I will do that now. Thanks for the tip!

@surreymumof03 I am glad you got yourself out of similar and it's nice to know there is hope. I am perfectly safe as long as I am strong enough to abandon all the accounts he could contact me on. There is an ocean between us and a pandemic keeping travel nicely restricted right now. We have no financial, marital or legal ties otherwise.

@claireyjs I never considered WomensAid because my situation is a little different. I might PM you to explain more and see if they would help? The backstory is huge and I actually posted here about it here during a traumatic time in the early days of our relationship, and I think I am actually trauma bonded to this man.